Smiling has nothing to do with being nice if you ask me. It's about being happy.
I know, I was making a comparison. It's a similar situation to me. Overly happy people and overly nice people.
No one is happy or nice all the time. They might just not show those sides around you. Some people are nice and happy a lot though. Should or shouldn't they be allowed to be themselves?
Yeah. I'm not saying they shouldn't. I was elaborating on a point that it is possible. And sometimes being too nice all the time can make others feel uncomfortable. Being crabby and blunt like I am can make others uncomfortable too. So it's not that they shouldn't be that way, it's just what is.
Completely honest about how they're feeling? So it's ok to say that you think people are idiots for thinking a certain way if that's how you feel? Just curious because I myself don't see the point of that. If a person is fat or ugly in your (general sense) opinion how often should you tell this person this? After all, you're just speaking the truth of what you're feeling. Maybe I'm misunderstanding.
You shouldn't tell someone "Hey, I think you're ugly." Not because it's blunt, but because it's rude to just go up to someone and start spewing out insults. I do think it's ok to say you think people are being stupid for thinking a certain way. I think people who are homophobes are idiots for thinking that way, and I'll never turn back on that. But that's not the point of what I was getting at. What I meant was if you're having a discussion with someone online, you have to be completely honest about what you're feeling or else the discussion will either become circular or one person will end up getting annoyed because there's nothing there to work with. BS isn't fun when you're having a serious discussion. For example, I don't want to have a discussion with someone in which they keep telling me "now, I respect your opinion but..." Just say what you need to say. If you think my opinion's stupid, say it.
It's an unpopular opinion, but I respect everyone as an individual with different life experiences and thought processes that are as valid as mine... but I also feel I reserve the right to tell someone their opinion is stupid if I think so. And I think other people reserve the same right for me.
Now I'm not going to try to make that how this board works, because it's not how this board works. And I'm not going to make it how life works, 'cause it's not how life works. But it is irritating to me that it's not.
Yet you're censoring yourself here, at school or at work?
I have to. **** is censored on this board. If I were to curse with the other words as much as I use them in my every day speech, I'd be kicked off the board. At school, I'd be suspended and at work I'd be fired. I don't censor myself because I'm choosing to for other people, I do it because I'm forced to by other people.
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There's a huge difference between being honest and being blunt with it. You can speak your mind without coming across in a way that makes people not want to continue the conversation. If someone is unnecessarily blunt then chances are I either don't respond nicely or I don't respond at all. I don't like it when people are overly nice either, has to be a balance in tone for me.
You're using blunt as a synonym for rude.. but that's not what it means. Being blunt just means you say what you need to say without beating around any sort of bush. It means you get to the bottom line and that's it. And yes, part of that is you're not too concerned about others' feelings... but the rest of it is you're being completely honest. Being consciously blunt is not the same thing as being consciously rude. It's not like you sit there and say "how can I phrase this in the way that is the ruddest?" It's just "here is what I think." The blunt opinion can be rude in nature, but the act of being blunt isn't rude. Because a blunt opinion can also be nice in nature.
