BtVS has helped me through some of the hardest times of my life. People that I have met on the Buffy Boards have helped me get through the death of my boyfriend, losing jobs, alcohol and drug dependencies, self harm and long, difficult days and nights when I have been at my lowest and most unlike-able. Sometimes we have rewatched the series while chatting online. One night a girl I met through the Buffy fandom drove to my house, picked me up, and we sung OMWF to each other until I fell asleep after the death of my boyfriend. Sometimes when I was all alone I turned to my BtVS DVD's and my friends from The Scooby Gang were there. BtVS has bought me laughter and joy, courage and strength and a place in the world.
Your portrayal of Xander Harris has helped to literally save my life.
I don't want to preach to you, I understand you don't need to hear it.
I don't want to make you feel guilty, you are not letting any of your fans down.
I do want you to know that there are lots of fans standing behind you.
I do want you to know that I believe in you.