Hey, SpikeLuva. Wanna know a neat trick for dealing with obsession? Here's one I read in a self-help book somewhere. Can't remember where, but it seems to work.
Basically what you want to do is redirect the energy outward in as many directions as possible.
It goes like this. You go to the corner store and there's a grumpy little asian lady at the counter, who doesn't speak very good english. Usually you just write her off. You make your purchase exchange grunts and walk away.
Don't to that any more. Watch her. Listen to her. Find something you like about her, and comment on it.
Same thing with the nerd at school, or the little brother you hate. Force yourself to watch them, and listen, and take an interest in them.
After a while something cool starts to happen, because this doesn't just apply to people you'd otherwise ignore. It applies to anyone. You can walk up to the A-class dudes of dudes, and treat them the same way. If they don't like it, so what? Your not treating them any differently than the way you treat, a little old lady, who hardly speaks any english.
After a while it will shock you how interesting life gets. Opportunities open up from directions you'd never expect.
It's hard to force yourself to watch and listen to people you'd just as soon pretend weren't there, or people you don't feel your class in the pecking order allows you talk to, but worth it. Not only does it create fun, eventually it gives you a feeling of power.
Basically all you're going to do is teach yourself to flirt with anyone, and everyone. Don't take anyone too seriously, but care about everyone. Practice on your pet. Give a damn what Snoopy the dog is feeling at that particular moment, then walk away to try it on your family, and so on...
It's kind of cold, but if you're obsessed with everyone, you can walk away from anyone.
So spread your smiles around. Try it for a month, and if I'm wrong, sue me.
