Prom cancelled because of student's homosexuality

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Miss. school prom off after lesbian's date request

By SHELIA BYRD, Associated Press Writer Shelia Byrd, Associated Press Writer – 1 hr 7 mins ago

JACKSON, Miss. – A northern Mississippi school district will not be hosting a high school prom this spring after a lesbian student sought to attend with her girlfriend and wear a tuxedo.

The Itawamba County school district's board decided Wednesday to drop the prom because of what it called recent distractions but without specifically mentioning the girl's request, which was backed by the American Civil Liberties Union.

The student, 18-year-old high school senior Constance McMillen, said the cancellation was retaliation for her efforts to bring her girlfriend, also a student, to the April 2 dance.

"A bunch of kids at school are really going to hate me for this, so in a way it's really retaliation," McMillen told The Clarion-Ledger of Jackson. Calls to McMillen by The Associated Press late Wednesday went unanswered.

School policy requires that senior prom dates be of the opposite sex. The ACLU of Mississippi had given the district until Wednesday to change that policy, arguing that banning same-sex prom dates violated McMillen's constitutional rights.

Instead, the school board met and issued a statement announcing it wouldn't host the event at Itawamba County Agricultural High School in Fulton, "due to the distractions to the educational process caused by recent events."

The statement didn't mention McMillen or the ACLU. When asked by The Associated Press if McMillen's demand led to the cancellation, school board attorney Michele Floyd said she could only reference the statement.

"It is our hope that private citizens will organize an event for the juniors and seniors," district officials said in the statement. "However, at this time, we feel that it is in the best interest of the Itawamba County School District, after taking into consideration the education, safety and well being of our students."

Kristy Bennett, legal director for the ACLU of Mississippi, said the district was trying to avoid the issue.

"But that doesn't take away their legal obligations to treat all the students fairly," Bennett said. "On Constance's behalf, this is unfair to her. All she's trying to do is assert her rights."

Itawamba County is a rural area of about 23,000 people in north Mississippi near the Alabama state line. It borders Pontotoc County, Miss., where more than a decade ago school officials were sued in federal court over their practice of student-led intercom prayer and Bible classes.

Anna Watson, a 17-year-old junior at the high school, was looking forward to the prom, especially since the town's only hotspot is the bowling alley, she said.

"I am a little bummed out about it. I guess it's a decision that had to be made. Either way someone was going to get disappointed — either Constance was or we were," Watson said. "I don't agree with homosexuality, but I can't change what another person thinks or does."

Other students are on McMillen's side.

McKenzie Chaney, 16, said she wasn't planning to attend the prom, but "it's kind of ridiculous that they can't let her wear the tuxedo and it all be over with."

A Feb. 5 memo to students laid out the criteria for bringing a date to the prom, and one requirement was that the person must be of the opposite sex.

The ACLU said McMillen approached school officials shortly before the memo went out because she knew same-sex dates had been banned in the past. The ACLU said district officials told McMillen she and her girlfriend wouldn't be allowed to arrive together, that she would not be allowed to wear a tuxedo, and that she and her girlfriend might be asked to leave if their presence made any other students "uncomfortable."

McMillen said she feared she would be thrown out of the prom because "we do live in the Bible Belt."

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I can see both sides of the story. The girl doesn't believe it's fair and believes she is being "punished" because of her orientation. But, having not left high school TOO long ago, I know how big this issue can become, and therefore preventing any issues would be the schools first concern.
 
I think it'a ridiculous. I think it's entirely unfair in the 21st century that someone can be told who they can and can't attend their prom with, or what they should wear. Cancelling the prom altogether and disappointing all those teenagers just because this girl wanted to bring her girlfriend was just completely over the top. She should have been allowed to bring her girlfriend, and if other students didn't like it, they didn't have to go, but at least they would be getting the choice to decide for themselves. Now no one's getting their prom because of a bunch of stuck up council people who are clearly stuck in the 19th century.

I went to my prom with a girl. She wasn't my girlfriend, but she was who I wanted to go with, and one of my female friends wore a full tuxedo, waistcoat, bow-tie, the works. Alright, so she had it 'femanized' and teamed it with five inch spiked heels, but still, no one had problem with it, and we had an awesome night.
 
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a girl and her good friend, cause her boyfriend lived out of state, went together, and the friend dressed in a feminized tuxedo. this is why i dont agree with the church, other than the fact that Jesus is my savior.
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The school's finding out that karma can be a pain in the ASS! As for the tuxedo: a lady can rock a tux, feminized or not...it all depends on the person wearing it
I ... wow. I don't get how some stuck up council members can disappoint so many students just because they live in the middle ages. Makes me wonder what people would say if we had something like a prom. But I doubt it would be that big of a deal.
 
I just laughed at this article. Not because being cruel towards homosexuals for no reason is funny, but because some people are just so stupid. And that's not directed at anyone on the boards sharing an opinion, it's directed at the "omg cancel the world a lesbian in a tuxedo!" people need to get over it.
 
I mean wtf! We have lots of gay people in our school and I happen to be good friends with some. Our prom is held at the end of this year and if It gets cancelled for something like that there would be riots and I for one would be with them.
 
I can see how the school officials *may* have thought their hands to be tied (especially if it is a very conservative community, the outcry from parents could have been huge). But honestly I live in a small town full of folks who don't agree with homosexuality and I went to Prom with my girlfriend, I can't believe that those girls didn't have the same privilege. Obviously I'm incredibly biased in this issue, but in today's age I think it's unacceptable that those girls won't get to have their "high school prom moment" just because they happen to be of the same gender. If their classmates had a problem with two ladies dancing together, then perhaps they should focus on their own evening and leave it be. It's not like they were asking the school to endorse their sexuality, they just wanted to be allowed to bring their special someone as a date... heaven forbid!

Again, I know how biased I am here. I had a lot of backlash from my peers about bringing a girl to Prom, and like was mentioned in the article there were people that said they were uncomfortable with it when I did it too. But the way I see it is I wasn't terribly comfortable with seeing some of the Male/Female couples "dancing" the way that they did (it was like watching them have sex on the dance floor! seriously!) or play tonsil tennis in front of the drink stand, but nobody told them that they weren't allowed to be there. Not everyone was comfortable seeing those folks acting that way, but we focused on our own evenings and let them enjoy themselves. A little bit of basic tolerance-- was that so much for this girl to ask for?

Anyway, like I said I can *kind of* understand that the school wouldn't have seen many other options but to cancel it, to avoid the headaches of public outcry and all. But if it had happened at my school I'd be raising all kinds of hell over this. It makes me so angry to hear about this stuff *still* going on-- in 2010! It's bad enough that this discrimination happens in the "real world", think it's downright disgusting that schools are doing the same thing too. What does that teach the students that go there? Homosexuality is so taboo, we canceled prom over it! Yeah, great job....
 
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That school's behaviour makes me sick. I cannot believe that these kind of medieval attitudes not only still exist, but are enshrined in the rules of a school.
 
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Really? Really? Really?! Cancelling an entire prom because two lesbians wanted to attend together... what are we back in the dark ages again? This is appauling, it has ruined every senior in that High School's (who wanted to go) dream of attending their last prom. Whats wrong with letting a girl wear a tuxedo? At least she wasn't planning on going to the prom naked, surely that would be more of a reason to retaliate?
 
Really? Really? Really?! Cancelling an entire prom because two lesbians wanted to attend together... what are we back in the dark ages again? This is appauling, it has ruined every senior in that High School's (who wanted to go) dream of attending their last prom. Whats wrong with letting a girl wear a tuxedo? At least she wasn't planning on going to the prom naked, surely that would be more of a reason to retaliate?
I happen to know someone who was in the year ahead of me who joked she would attend naked. All that happened was she was told they wouldn't let her in.
 
Cancelling a prom because two lesbians want to attend together? Only in America.
*shakes head with an air of wisdom and disbelief*
 
Oh waow. That is just ridiculous...
They didn't need to cancel the whole thing sake, letting all those people down.
I just don't get it. :3
 
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Oh my God. I agree a million times over with what Lyri said. I come from a tiny little town in the Bible belt, and I can understand why school leaders wanted to cancel the prom. If they had held it and refused to let this girl go, she could have sued them for discrimination which could have gotten just as messy as letting her go with her girlfriend and having hundreds of people bombarding the school with complaints.
I just think it's sad that people are still so ignorant to care so much over who someone loves. Love is not a choice. You can't help how you feel, and the sooner people realize this and stop thinking people 'choose' to be gay because it's trendy or to spite people or whatever, the world will be so much better off.
 
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All I can say is that poor girl who is now blamed by all her classmates for their prom being canceled. Shame on them for doing that to a young girl.

I remember in my school, you couldn't go to prom if you didn't have a date. Which is bad enough.
 
Wow, those people are so moronic it's almost amusing. Except not, because it's depressing and revolting that people still think like that.

I mean, really? Canceling the prom because a girl wants another girl as a date? Seriously? I'm honestly having a hard time wrapping my mind around that concept, it MUST be the silliest and craziest thing I've heard all month.

But really, I just feel pretty insulted. They're not just insulting homosexuals in this: They're insulting students, they're insulting schools that AREN'T medieval and over the top psycho, they're insulting AMERICA by abusing the natural rights that we're all granted, and they're insulting feminism in general, IMO.

What is freedom and empowerment? The right to make your own choices. Hm.

Not to mention, it's INCREDIBLY stupid.

Like , I'm not lesbian/bisexual myself, but I've been planning to go to the prom with a girl. Simply because I find partying with my girl friends more fun, plus, she'd be a bestie. They wouldn't even let two girls go together as FRIENDS? Really?

And, controlling what she wears? I understand wanting them to wear formal clothing, it IS Prom after all, but who honestly CARES about what somebody is wearing?

Ridiculous, just plain ridiculous.
 
Thats awful to cancel the whole thing. In my school in he year after us, 2 guys went together, and we do this thing where all the dates walk out together and are announced, apparently the to guys got the biggest applause out of everyone!

Although I do have a problem with the girl:

"A bunch of kids at school are really going to hate me for this, so in a way it's really retaliation," McMillen told The Clarion-Ledger of Jackson.

Sounds to me like she was doing it for the wrong reason, I totally get why she'd want to do it. But if it was only to piss people off then that was wrong becasue she knew it would cuase an uproar. If it was becasue she really wanted to go with a girl thats different, but the impression from the article is she was doing it to provoke a fight, which itsn't cool.
 
Hmm I read that like she was saying it was the school board retaliating against her for being a lesbian, because the kids will now hate her. So like they're punishing her.

Having said that, it wouldn't surprise me if she did it for the publicity. Such is our world...
 
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That's how I read it, too.
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Ah right, I get it now!
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yep, I read it as that too.
I remember in my school, you couldn't go to prom if you didn't have a date. Which is bad enough.
Did you go, Buffy Summers?? 🙂 "Is bad enough" sounds like a personal experience. Was our fearless leader dateless for the prom? There was no strapping 400 year old man and a bad cover of Wild Horses for your prom?
 
BuffyElevated
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Awww, The Sundays' cover wasn't bad! :(
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