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Are you in a "relationship"? Married, engaged, single, is it complicated?

I don't even know if i'm in a relationship, I don't think I want to be. I think I'm too selfish.
Do you think love/being in love makes it easier to live your life, make you happier to get up in the morning?
Does the other partner ever truly know the other? Does anyone ever truly know anyone? Ever? Even frienships and that.
Do you want to be in a relationship if you're not in one?
Or do you enjoy being single?

Do you believe in love at first sight? Fate? Meant to be?

I was in a relationship for 5 years, and I didn't act like I was in a relationship, I was selfish (and drunk) most of the time.
Have you been in a relationship that ended badly?

I don't think I'll ever settle down. I think I'll become a gypsy that collects jackets and spoons.
 
Married. 🙂

In some ways, it makes life easier. If I had to live on just MY salary, I'd starve. And I never have to worry about being alone. And he warms up the bed at night so even when it's literally freezing outside, I'm nice and toasty. 🙂

In some ways, it makes life harder. He spends money, too, and not always in ways I approve of. I can't plan stuff without thinking about what he's going to be doing. And sometimes his toes are colder than mine.

Sometimes I think I'm really not cut out for this marriage thing--I'm very independent, maybe too independent. But I wouldn't leave him for anything. Cause he's snuggly. 🙂
 
im in a relationship have been for over 2 yrs now and before that i was a mess went thru various love triangles and love feelings for the wrong people so i found myself truly happy when i met my current spouse, i now it makes me sound weak but i feel that i really did need someone special in my life, i have so many downers that love was my permanent upper then again been in this relationship made me realise im not really good in relationships it is tough and going to been in messy love triangles to a serious one is a big step, im happy where i am for now though 🙂 as spoons said about acting like she wasnt in a relationship is the way i behave now though silliness been drunk and flirting which i just cant break that habit i think my spouse just accepted that its a part of me at this stage lol
 
I had the big love, all happy, thoughts of kiddies, and a home. And then, slap in the face, turns out she was a total C U Next Tuesday, so that ended. Big old broken heart, and 4 years gone to waste. And i know it is better to have loved and lost than to never have, blah- de - blah. That's a stinking pile. So i am done with the relationship thing. Messes with my heart and head, and i don't like that. Since Satan's daughter, I had one unhealthy relationship, all doom and gloom, and freakiness, and one happy one. But i realized that i am happier by myself , at least for the moment. I am not big with the trust, so once i sort out the trust issues, i might consider doing the relationship thing again.
 
Mine would be 'Its complicated' if this was FB.

First of all, the bisexual thing, for me is odd.
I like to have relations with a chap but the idea of a relationship is not for me.

With women, well there is one that is a bit up in the air, not sure that I want to pursue anything with her at the moment but thats not to say I wouldn't - its just some personal stuff being dealt with at the moment that doesn't leave me with a clear head!
 
Kean
Kean
It will sort itself out in the end...once you don't do the sabotage thing!
Gosh. good question Spoons. Now, time for some reflection.

Well, I am in a "serious" relationship and have been for about 2 years. It's nice because why? You always have someone to talk to who knows you better than anyone and whom you can be yourself around. And, having someone to help pay the rent is really nice. Also, he helps me with my math homework. I'd be lost without him, honestly (at least in math).

It's also very difficult, though. I'm in college, and he's not, and sometimes I feel we live very different lives and are growing apart. He's also 9 years older than me, and more settled down. We're very close and get along great, but we're two very different people, I guess.

I do wish I was single sometimes, and I do innocently check out other guys - but I would never do anything.

And yes, I have been in some awful relationships that weren't based on trust or love or anything they should have been based on. Actually, this recent one is probobly the healthiest one I've ever been in. Hopefully I can make it last...

I can't really see myself getting married. Ryan and I are a team, we help each other out - and we're also really close friends. I can't see us getting married, though. Although, I'd like to have a child someday (after college) and he absolutely doesn't want to ever have kids. So, that might become an issue in the future. We'll see.
 
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I'm not sure I'm comfortable answering ALL of those questions, but yes I have been in love and I have had my heart broken. What can I say...it sucks.
 
My answer: Complicated to put into words, but very pleasant atm (unless msn & BB die on you at the same night when you live in different countries...).

If you had asked me a month ago, I would clearly have said, I'm single and more than happy with it. Only relationship I ever had before (bit over 2 years ago) was a thing over the net and phone with a woman I never got to see IRL... and who turned out to be lying to me to a degree that had to be seen to be believed. I'm a very lenient person, so I could have forgiven her living together with a life partner since two years, whom I never knew about. My leniency borders on stupidity, so I just might have forgiven her the "medical appointments" for the cancer she never had, but which oh so conveniently happened to be when said life partner had his days off from work. Even my leniency comes to an end when it's about her story about "getting raped brutally by a psychopathic ex-boyfriend" - which was her cover up for the one time I had said life partner on the phone in her... in their flat, I should say, and he was not pleased that I asked to talk to my girlfriend. That last story sent me off into two weeks of shock, grief and turmoil when I heard about it, and I neither can nor will forgive her for this. I guess you can understand how happy I am that this... person... has left my life for good. :fuming:

So I was back to my casual non-commital ways after I recovered from the depression Liar-ella left me with, thinking this would remain my way of life. Well, and then Shempy comes along and wants to test that theory. (Final results of the experiment are yet to be seen, but the test is in progress, and it feels healthy and fun so far. 😉 😛 )
 
Blaze
Blaze
sorry about that b**ch. Good luck with the new relation :)
Are you in a "relationship"? If I have to answer that question I´m doing something wrong. :tongue:

Do you think love/being in love makes it easier to live your life, make you happier to get up in the morning? Even if the distance thing can make me totally crazy/depressed sometimes it makes me happier so I´d say yes on that one. And knowing how it is to be in the same situation but not "having" her there´s no question that it improves my life. Things could be easier but I wouldn´t change her for anyone even if that person would live in the same town. For a more general answer it sure depends on the kind of love and/or relationship we´re talking about. It´s not like being in a relationship/in love automatically makes your life better.


Does the other partner ever truly know the other? Does anyone ever truly know anyone? Ever? Even frienships and that. 100%? No. But us meeting online, not looking for "something" (it just happened) and me bad at talking about me and my feelings in real life have lead to that she knows the "inner"/real me way better than anyone ever have.When it comes to how I am in real life there´s still some learning to do. There is a difference after all. But we´re working on it. 😉


Do you believe in love at first sight? Fate? Meant to be? I believe in attraction that feels like love at first sight but for me real love is so much more than what you get from an initial meeting. But feeling "something/ a connection? Sure. Fate and meant to be? Not really but so many small things had to come together for us meeting and things to develop as they have that it seems unbelievable.

My experiences from relationship has mostly been from others peoples relationships before and the impression I got was either

A) Why do he/she/they lie about so many things? = lead to breakups. I´ve never been interested in being someone else to impress someone and after a while getting to the real me. Guess there´s a reaon why people have had a tendency to run away before. 😉

B) I´ve found someone. He´s/she´s really great and I love him/her deeply. One week to a month later: He/she wasn´t at all as I thought. So we´re not together anymore. (I know it has a lot in common with the first one but A was about couples that managed to get past the first month.)

C) We can tolerate each other so why not be together? It sure beats being alone. = Always seemed to lack the love-part. People were just to "afraid" to be lonely. And I have to admit, I was willing to settle for that too, at least for a while, if I ever got the chance. Too tired of being alone and from that to find what I have now feels so unbelievable. I would trust her with my life. I would easily give my life for her if I knew it would save hers. I feel comfortable and safe with her which might sound like a small things but if people knew the real me they would know how huge of a deal that is. Before this I might have experienced something about 2% of what I have now. I´m not a person that goes personal or too personal (blabbing a lot of not so personal but still personal things I can do as some have noticed) but I´ve told her so much and I still have trouble understanding I´ve told her a lot of those things. Meeting online sure has "helped" us so even if I can understand if it seems a bit weird for others. But considering the people we are we would never have gotten to this stage if we´d met in real life instead. So meeting for real was of course scary. How different would we feel? But it only showed one thing even though we both were extremely nervous. I love her more than I thought it was possible to ever love someone (sounds selfish of me I know but with what I´ve seen my entire life it still seems unreal. Peoplle didn´t feel this way. Or least none that I´ve seen. Not saying that´s how it is. Just that that was the feeling I had.) She´s perferct for me. Not perfect as in the perfect person in general. Such a person doesn´t exist but she´s way better than any dreamgirl I´ve ever fantasised about. Where this will end I have no idea but I sure know how I want it to end.
 
Are you in a "relationship"? Married, engaged, single, is it complicated?

Married. Is marriage complicated? Not necessarily. I'm complicated, though, and my husband and I communicate our needs in very different ways, so it's taken a few years to find our way of living together.

I don't even know if i'm in a relationship, I don't think I want to be. I think I'm too selfish.

If you don't want to be in a relationship, then don't be in one.

Do you think love/being in love makes it easier to live your life, make you happier to get up in the morning?

Let me first say that "being in love" and "love" is two different emotions. "Being in love" is to a great extent the brain having a big chemical party with the intention that your body should decide to mate so that you can pass your genes on. In my experience, being in love makes my life a whole lot harder to live. When I fall in love, I loose a bit too much of my impulse control, and must say that I've done things under the influence of hormones that I frankly wish undone. And I'm not big on regrets, believe me. How about "love", then. No "“ that's not what helps me get up in the morning, either. I greatly appreciate sharing my life with a partner whose company I enjoy, but what does a difference to the getting up in the morning (or rather, for me, the getting myself to bed), is how I feel in my own skin. There is no other relationship in my life that can rectify things if my relationship to me is out of sync.

Does the other partner ever truly know the other? Does anyone ever truly know anyone? Ever? Even frienships and that.

No. Never. But to me, that is one of the magic aspects of relationships. I'm unstoppably fascinated and intrigued by people, and love how our relationships are ever-changing through life. When people believe that they know all there is to know about the other person, that's often a sign that the relationship (either a couple or a friendship) is stagnating.

Do you believe in love at first sight? Fate? Meant to be?

No. To me, love is an effort.

I was in a relationship for 5 years, and I didn't act like I was in a relationship, I was selfish (and drunk) most of the time.
Have you been in a relationship that ended badly?

I've been in a relationship that I ended badly. I can't judge your relationship from that one sentence, but I'd say it didn't make you particularly happy. If a relationship doesn't give you mostly positive things, I'd say there's no reason to stick with it. Good for you that it's in the past. 🙂

Do you miss being in a relationship?
 
Egads honey, that's a lot of questions and it's so early in morning to be thinking so deeply (for me 😉) but I'll give it a shot.

Are you in a "relationship"? Married, engaged, single, is it complicated?
Very, very single at the moment. I'm selfish. Right at this point in time, my life is fairly mapped out for the next few months at least and I don't need the extra complication.

Do you think love/being in love makes it easier to live your life, make you happier to get up in the morning?
That's tricky. I was in love. And I was happy. But not always, because it was a very complicated mess of a relationship that drove me round the bend say about 30% of the time. I don't know if it will always be like that because it's only ever happened once.


Does the other partner ever truly know the other? Does anyone ever truly know anyone? Ever? Even frienships and that.
Know thyself? If I knew myself I'd run away. 😛 I think we all see ourselves and each other in different ways, and all of that perception, whether from yourself, your partner, your friends, that guy that stalks you, is who you are.


Do you want to be in a relationship if you're not in one?
Or do you enjoy being single?
I'm insanely independent right now. I'm also in another country and months away from heading back home. And I've tried the "leave someone behind and see if it lasts" technique, and it failed miserably and only a couple of vodka bottles and a drunken weekend in Dublin made me feel any better at the time. And I have no desire to want to try it right now. Maybe one day, since I do miss being to just crawl into someone's lap at night even just to watch the tv, and just inhale their scent in bed and other little cutesy things...just not now.

Do you believe in love at first sight? Fate? Meant to be?
Nope. I think lust and attraction are a first sight sort of thing, and if you can get it to work for you, then power to you. I think love is like most things in life, it takes time, work and effort. But then maybe I just think that because I'm all cynical and stuff.
 
Professor Walsh
Professor Walsh
Not cynical. Smart.
Single. Sure, you can say I'm too young, but I'm one of the only girls in my year group who's not with someone. I've had four proper boyfriends, and the only one who ever told me he loved me moved to the other side of the world...I guess that was some bad karma.
Whereas most girls in my school are obsessed with having a boyfriend just because they think it makes them seeming cool, I'm really not bothered right now. I have school, and GCSEs coming up starting next year, if I had a boyfriend, it would complicate everything. I'm waiting 'til the future. I'm a good girl...At times. 😉
 
Are you in a "relationship"? Married, engaged, single, is it complicated?

I'm single , it gets tough sometimes people talking about having someone , going on date. I find that I'm Lonely but I do have freedom to go where I please without txting and phoning. It is nice to have freedom but being alone sometimes can be depressing. So I mainly stick to my friends , meeting the right person can wait for now.


Do you think love/being in love makes it easier to live your life, make you happier to get up in the morning?

I think being in love would be hard, I have giant trust issues that I need to vanish , kinda stops me going forward through life instead am talking 3 steps back. I do think being in love would make a happy, sometimes a hug or just some other human touch is all I want. I ain't covered in scales or nothing.


Does the other partner ever truly know the other? Does anyone ever truly know anyone? Ever? Even frienships and that.

Doesn't matter which kind of relationship your in be it friendship or love, people grown apart, we drift. A relationship has to be 50/50 not 70/30, if your friend , b/f or G/f isn't making the same effort tell them or cut them out. Sometimes people just cannot get that spark back before someone stop caring.


Do you want to be in a relationship if you're not in one?
Or do you enjoy being single?

Sometimes I do enjoy being single I can wander free, but then I do not know how to react when someone likes me , do I go for it or do I say are they really into me or are they going to use me . I do hate being Miss 3rd wheel . I would like one but one that is taken in tiny steps.

Do you believe in love at first sight? Fate? Meant to be?

I think it depends on your own outlook, I think people are the same and we click Fate I dunno , how can we ever know, if everything is meant to be. Everything happens for a reason, I suppose in someways it does, without working I would not have met people who are now my close friends. Love first sight NO i think love is something you need to wait on to happen, Lust at first sight maybe but never love.


Have you been in a relationship that ended badly?

Yes I have ! It was rough , he cheated, lied, used, said some pretty nasty things to me. He was someone I trusted, he was my friend for years and he treated me badly now, I couldn't careless because he was nothing, just another step in life that everyone takes. Your first heartbreak is always the worst.

Posted by Spoons are cool -I don't think I'll ever settle down. I think I'll become a gypsy that collects jackets and spoons.
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I will collect the forks with you x
 
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Blair Waldorf-Bass
*hugglesyou*
I suck at knowing when you are flirting with someone or if you just are talking..I am in general lousy with teh mysterious males! So my status would be something like "Complicated, single in love" :/

I constantly blow it up. I mean, if a guy likes me at first, and I finds out...I kinda destroy it for myself. DX
But on the other hand...the current fascination I have, makes me happy 🙂 And I am fine with that....for now
 
I'm married. In a lot of ways being in love and this relationship makes life a lot easier. We tend to be the opposite of one another in a lot of aspects while very similar minded in others, which compliments more than aggravates most of the time. We do things for one another so things aren't just on one half's head. If I've had a bad day I love seeing him at the end of it because he'll do something stupid to cheer me up. And I have to admit waking up in the morning and seeing his face is definitely better for me than waking up and seeing an empty pillow and when he's gone on short business trips it feels really off when he's not there (but I make myself feel better by taking advantage of having the entire bed to myself so silver lining there, 😉 haha) He makes me smile without meaning to- I think we're one of those annoying couples where people are left wondering what's funny so I, erm, apologize for that.

Does the partner ever truly know the other?

I'd like to think so, although a couple of weeks ago we were having an argument- I can't even remember what over now- and when we had the Apology Scene he got this something-just-occurred-to-me look and said 'Hey, I never know whether you're reaaaally apologizing. You're an actress, it's your job to lie!' and my defence was that was a stupid thing for a lawyer to say. So I suppose on some level there's always that chance you could be lying, that you could be hiding something so there's always that percentage- no matter how big or small- that doesn't trust the other, but that's human nature. No one can know you entirely unless they're in your head. But human tendencies aside, I feel that we trust each other entirely. He knows I have a really big issue with lying- due to how my Dad was with my Mom before, during and after the divorce- so even if he's done something he knows I won't like he always ends up telling me because we both know it's better to be mad/upset about what one thinks is a bad decision rather than realize the other has lied and gone behind your back.

Do you believe in love at first sight?

Yes, but I'm a great romantic so I'm a sucker for all that. It didn't happen for me with Rick I'll admit- it was more I saw him in the store and I was immediately intrigued by him, but I brushed it aside like you always do if you see a cute guy anywhere. If he hadn't followed me out of the store to catch up with me I probably would never have seen him again. So maybe it was love at first sight there, but it just felt totally average and wasn't the Cinderella moment I'd imagined, haha. But I do believe in fate etc- not to the extent that we don't make our own decisions but rather they're are certain things that are meant to happen for us and it's how we interpret Fate's guidance that we get to where we are- and I like to think I've found the one I was meant to be with (I mean he is the only guy who didn't laugh at my Buffy Obsession which was a nice change. And he hates American Football which is even better 😉!)...and though it gives me the wig I think my Mom may have found the right guy finally. She's been through two crappy marriages with two guys that started out great but then just tore her to shreds- she didn't even have a home after the first marriage and he got rid of her dogs- but she's been with this man now for just over a year (this gardener man who owns a gardening center a block or so away from my house in Cali) and though it gave me a teenage-type wig at the thought of Mom dating, I have to admit this is the first guy who really makes her happy and doesn't give her crap. So it may have taken nearly 54 years but I think she's there now, so I like to think of things like that as fate and meant to be...

Have you ever been in a relationship thate ended badly?

Yes, and no. My high school boyfriend, my first love and all that jazz, was fantastic. I loved him like a crazy person- we dated for so long everyone kinda knew us as Lana-and-Chris. But then one day when I was about 17...maybe a bit older....I can't remember the exact time, his family announced they were going to Australia at the end of the school year. Permanently. Which meant bye-bye coupledom. So we decided to stop dating so we could spend the next few months getting used to not being together. Of course just before he went to Australia we broke that code in true Movie-Style-Fashion haha, but we both knew it was a goodbye and so it was okay between us. Then baddabing baddaboom, I go back to school in the fall and at the Fall Dance (where the boys school and girls school get together) who should I see there? Chris. He's here for another year, since his family needed to sort some things out in California before moving to Austalia real permenantly and they thought he should finish his education. So we never knew whether to date or not because we knew he'd be going again at the end of the year anyway, but we wanted to date so it was a year full of getting together and breaking up. Eventually it was just too much for me and I broke it off permenantly well before he went to Australia. So it was really really bad in that respect, but we did stay in touch as friends so it was good in that respect.
Of course I bumped into him again last year and he's gay now so that threw me a whole curve ball.
 
Are you in a "relationship"? Married, engaged, single, is it complicated?

No. Haven't even had a date for two years now. It felt fine at first, but lately, I've been longing for something more. Maybe it's a relationship, but then again, maybe it isn't.

Do you think love/being in love makes it easier to live your life, make you happier to get up in the morning?

It depends, really. It depends on how much effort you're willing to put into it or if it actually flows (which seems to be a rarity). I mean, it is nice to wake up to find someone lying next to you or to find yourself curled up on someone's lap. However, there are the circumstances of the rest of life that come into play. There are times where you are too busy to even breathe and therefore can't invest any good amount of time into a relationship and other times when having a bit of everything just seems right. I tend to fall into the latter category as I'm not a very confident person but find myself trying to become better when there's someone to impress.

Does the other partner ever truly know the other? Does anyone ever truly know anyone? Ever? Even friendships and that.

No. For some reason and no matter the circumstances, people keep skeletons locked up deep in their closets. No matter how much honesty is displayed, there will always be that one little thing you never want to let anyone know or aren't necessarily aware of yourself. We all wear masks and they can become so convincing that we slowly believe this is who we are or this is who we are becoming.

Do you want to be in a relationship if you're not in one?
Or do you enjoy being single?

There are days when I thank the stars in the sky that I'm single. Those days are rare.
I would like to be in a relationship if the person is as accommodating as I am. That there is already too much to ask which is why I know I will become cat lady.

Do you believe in love at first sight? Fate? Meant to be?

I believe in soul mates, yes. Love at first sight - not so much. The first moments can be rather confusing and rooted in lust. You can't really label that "love" because it is what it is.

Have you been in a relationship that ended badly?

I went insane to the point where my mum was attempting to exorcise me and the girl considered me dead and gone. I suppose it could have been worse if she had cheated on me.
 
Im single and have been for far too long and am depressed because of it... so im not gonna write a long post about it

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Those are some good questions, Spoons. And so early ^^ (I just woke up, that qualifies as early). But let's see..


Are you in a "relationship"? Married, engaged, single, is it complicated?

Nope, and never have been. There was this this thing when I was 15, and he was like 23 or something. In total I saw him two times, because he lived somewhere rather far away. We mainly talked over msn. I don't think it was a relationship, but if I wasn't completely freaked out by the whole 'omg, someone actually likes me'-thing, it could have become one.


Do you think love/being in love makes it easier to live your life, make you happier to get up in the morning?

I think it can. I've been in love and it was only complicated because I like older guys who are completely unavailable, and at best just want to be friends. After the last time, about almost two years ago now, I sort of gave up the whole being in love thing. But, I've seen it around me, having someone to love can really give a boost. Love is after all one of the very things we're made for and of.

Does the other partner ever truly know the other? Does anyone ever truly know anyone? Ever? Even frienships and that.

I think it's impossible to even know yourself. And moreover, if you truly know someone, there's not much surprise in a relationship (of love or friendship) anymore. I know old people who can still surprise their partner and I think that's good. Otherwise it will be just boring and a drag and everything.

Do you want to be in a relationship if you're not in one?
Or do you enjoy being single?

Right now, I really want to be in a relationship. Partially because everyone, seriously everyone, around me has been or is in a relation of some kind, and I'm not. I don't want to be left out of the whole boyfriend/girlfriend thing. I'm curious, I want to know if I can do it, and more importantly, if there's anyone out there apart from my parents who loves me. But I know wanting to have a boyfriend is not the right way to get one, first I'll have to find someone I love and then wait till he makes the first move (because, you know, I'm physically unable to make any kind of first move)
Apart from that, I'm okay with being single. Some realtionships of friends have shown me that it can be a real joy to have a boyfriend, whereas others have shown me that they can be real distructive nasties, and I have so much going on right now, that a boyfriend might only make things more complicated.

Do you believe in love at first sight? Fate? Meant to be?

I don't know. I think the thing you experience at first sight isn't really love. Because love is so much more than simply wanting someone. Love is something entirely different from lust.

Have you been in a relationship that ended badly?

Easy answer, no. Because I have never actually been in one 😉
 
Jeeze Spoons...you've left me with serious thoughts all morning!

Are you in a "relationship"? Married, engaged, single, is it complicated?
I'm very single at the moment and not sure how I feel about it.

Do you think love/being in love makes it easier to live your life, make you happier to get up in the morning?
I don't know. I've never been in love...or even genuinely close to it. There was a very stong infatuation with one of my closest friends but I don't even recognise the girl who was so crazy about him now. There is no sparkage...at all at least not of the smoochies kind. Sometimes I wonder how it broke my heart so much. What I do believe is that if I was in love it would make my me happier but to only to a certain degree. People get caught up in love and someone else completing you and all that stuff. I don't believe in that. I don't think any other person on this planet can complete you. Only you can do that. I firmly believe that if a relationship is to have genuine chance the two people must come into it knowing who they are and being happy with it.


Does the other partner ever truly know the other? Does anyone ever truly know anyone? Ever? Even frienships and that.
I know myself and to be honest I don't want anyone to know me as well as I know myself. I'm a bit Oz like in the sense that I am my thoughts. In saying that I have trust issues the lenght if the Shannon but I have gotten better at this in the past year. I have 6 friends from seperate groups that I think know me as much as anyone ever will. They can anticipate what I will say about one thing or another. I tend to get really worked up about certain things and will just go off on a tangent about it quite forociously and sarcastically at times (Lyri can atest to this). It's over the top, I curse, I rant and I rave but I only mean half of it and they know that (and can calm me down or will just listen and then slag me afterwards)...my family don't. That means alot to me. These friends know me and I know them.

So no, no-one can ever completely know you but sometimes they come pretty damn close.


Do you want to be in a relationship if you're not in one?
Or do you enjoy being single?
Both. Sometimes I really wish I had a honey to the point where I ache. I'm finally in a place where I am truly happy. I am focused and I know what I want. I want someone to share that with...to be happy with. Even the most basic physical yearning of just having someone to cuddle. I miss that and I want that. However, I am freaky independent. I live my life each day at a time. I never know what could happen and I like not having to consider anyone else into my plans. Last year my friend asked me to go to Australia with him over breakfast one morning...and I went. Simple, uncomplicated decision. The only feelings I had to consider were my own. I love that freedom. Who knows what oppertunities are going to fall into my lap? I want to be able to take them.



Do you believe in love at first sight? Fate? Meant to be?
Love at first sight? No...at least not yet.😉 I seems a bit much even for an uber Bangel like me but I would be more than happy to be proven wrong.



Fate and meant to be? Definitely. The same friend who I was infatuated with and went to Oz with, we call ourselves soulmates (Souly for short😉) because we are so alike and undertsand each other so much. There is no romance in that. We can damn near read each others' minds. I can't not believe that we were meant to meet one another and be part of each others' lives. I truly believe there is a plan for us. Although I do think we have say along the way. I have struggled for so long and it is only now that I look back that I know that I was meant to be here, at this point in my life doing what I am doing. I think there is a path paved for us all but we just have to be open to it. I find taking the road less travelled has led me to the best experiences of my life and I look forward to more.
 
Are you in a "relationship"? Married, engaged, single, is it complicated?
I'm very single at the moment i did have a complicated relationship thing going on last year and the year before.There was a lot of misunderstandings and heart ache mostly on my part, he on the other hand ended up pretty good. The Btard 😉

Do you think love/being in love makes it easier to live your life, make you happier to get up in the morning?
I'd say yes if its a good happy love. I was in love i think i still am a little i guess its that whole first love thing. But it just made me sad becuase by the time I'd realized i did love him he'd moved on and it hurt like hell becuase he was with on of my friends.


Does the other partner ever truly know the other? Does anyone ever truly know anyone? Ever? Even frienships and that.

Well i don't know myself at the moment so no i don't they can.
Even friends i've had since i was 4 don't really know me,but i put up a big protective wall around myself.

Do you want to be in a relationship if you're not in one?
Or do you enjoy being single?
No not right now i don't know who i am or whats happening in my life. I need to get that sorted before have a new relationship and i need to trust again. Not saying it wouldn't be nice for a bit of attention 🙂

Do you believe in love at first sight? Fate? Meant to be?
Nope i think love grows in a relationship.But you never know!
 
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