The whole grudge on Spike....

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But Spike was souless and therefore uncapable of love. Sure he felt desire and lust, but it wasn't real love, just infatuation. Which is why he wanted to be used by Buffy, because he was infatuated with her. I am not dissing him or their relationship. I enjoyed season 6, unlike a lot of people. I also liked Buffy in that season. We all have our dark times, and we all do things that we are ashamed, and hurt people. But without the dark, the light would never seem bright. I believe that Spike thought he loved her before he got his soul. I believe that he did love her after he got his soul.

There is never an excuse for rape or attempted rape, but we have to remember that he was souless. He didn't resonate the bad, he equated sex with what made her feel for him and wanted her to want him again. It is a hard thing to watch, but I think it was the perfect way to send him after his soul. He had to experience something that dark and horrible to want his soul back. I like the storyline, I think they both needed each other, and when he got his soul, they could be very sweet.
 
But Spike was souless and therefore uncapable of love.

I've mostly stayed out of this thread so far but I can't help but respond to this.

I don't believe that he was incapable of love, just because he didn't have a soul. This is the view that Giles takes, yes (and so passes on to Buffy and the rest of the Scoobies), but that doesn't necessarily mean it's true (we could see him as a kind of 'unreliable narrator'). Of course Giles is going to prescribe to the view that demons are incapable of love, he wants Buffy to kill them.

I think Spike demonstrated that he could love over and over again - he was utterly devoted to Drusilla for over a hundred years; he withstood Glory's torture for Dawn and Buffy; he stayed with Dawn when Buffy was dead; and, one of the very first thing he does after being turned is to go back home to his mum, because he loved her.

I just can't buy that Spike couldn't love, just because he had no soul - not when there's so much canonical evidence to the contrary.
 
I actually do say (unlike many other Spuffies) that he was incapable of loving pre-soul, but that's not the point anyway. He wanted to be loved, and you certainly don't need a soul for that, right?
 
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I agree with that.
I think he was infatuated by Buffy and Dru. I believe he thought he was in love. IMHO, I don't think he could love without a soul. Without a soul how can you love? I don't dislike Spike at all, like I said I love the storyline. And I think that they were good together and that they both needed each other. I don't think blame should be placed on either, because I mean they both did wrong, but hasn't everyone. You can't really blame Spike for his actions in the bathroom scene, because he had no soul. But everything that happened lead to good. So I just think it is pointless to assign blame, they both did what they thought they should at the time. Spike thought that if he slept with Buffy she would want him again, and also Buffy thought if she slept with Spike she could feel something other than despair, which was all she was feeling since she was brought back from the dead.

Great discussion btw, I am enjoying reading everyone's views 🙂
 
Without a soul how can you love?

I guess it's because we don't really know what a 'soul' is in the Buffyverse that makes this so difficult to debate.

I mean, there's so many contradictions within the canon itself about what the soul is and means - I don't think even the writers themselves knew!

I however stand by the view that Spike could and did love before he got his soul.

There are other canonical examples of vampires in love - that couple in Angel (their names escape me... Elizabeth? James? Am I making this up? 😀), and of course Drusilla says that they can love, if not wisely.
 
There are other canonical examples of vampires in love - that couple in Angel (their names escape me... Elizabeth? James? Am I making this up? 😀), and of course Drusilla says that they can love, if not wisely.


OMG, I am watching that ep now, how funny!!!

I understand your views, Xaph, you have good points. In my opinion, and that is all it is, an opinion, I believe they can't without a soul. Like how when Angel had a soul, he loved Buffy. When he lost his soul and was Angelus, he couldn't love her, but he was infatuated with her, like Spike was in my opinion. But yeah I agree, I don't think the writers even know for sure, lol. Maybe they debate this too, lol.
 
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Oh yeah, just my opinion, too. If we all thought the same thing, there'd be nothing to talk about, lol. Btw, did I get their names right?
Whew! *takes a breather* This thread is getting good!

I'm enjoying everyone's intelligent comments. Now a long as we keep it nice, there will be no hard feelings 🙂

I've mostly stayed out of this thread so far but I can't help but respond to this.
Agreed. I know the fans disagree on if Spike was capable of love before he got his soul, but I for the record still haven't decided how I stand on this issue. For one, his actions do seem to have an agenda, yet everytime I think about it, I always keep coming back to one choice made you mentioned; his refusal to disclose who the Key was. e chose to protect Dawn when there was nothing in it for him, only because he knew it would "destroy her." He chose Buffy over own self-preservation; hardly something a "monster" would do. It's hard to argue that his decision to make that choice wasn't out of selfless love - all signs point to that theory.

I don't believe that he was incapable of love, just because he didn't have a soul. This is the view that Giles takes, yes (and so passes on to Buffy and the rest of the Scoobies), but that doesn't necessarily mean it's true (we could see him as a kind of 'unreliable narrator'). Of course Giles is going to prescribe to the view that demons are incapable of love, he wants Buffy to kill them.
Yes, and don't forget what Drusilla said - that vampires were capable of loving, if "not wisely."

I think Spike demonstrated that he could love over and over again - he was utterly devoted to Drusilla for over a hundred years; he withstood Glory's torture for Dawn and Buffy; he stayed with Dawn when Buffy was dead; and, one of the very first thing he does after being turned is to go back home to his mum, because he loved her.
I just can't buy that Spike couldn't love, just because he had no soul - not when there's so much canonical evidence to the contrary.
*nods* You can't ignore the evidence, that's for sure.

Spike might have wanted more, but that doesn't mean he had a problem with what was there. He repeatedly followed/stalked Buffy, begging for her to "use" him again.

Your arguments are thoughtful and articulate, but I still vehemently disagree with the idea that Spike alone "begged" and "stalked" Buffy for her affections. The fact of the matter is that Buffy initiated their sexual relationship, and she kept coming back to him for more. They were using each other equally. Look at the evidence: She tries to turn him down in "Gone" when he comes to her house after her shift, but she gives in. She goes to him later in the same ep and he tries to resist, and he gives him. It was a vicious cycle of manipulation, and both were guilty! She goes to him in "Into the Woods"...get where I'm coming from?

My whole point was that their relationship in S6 was not simply characterized entirely by him pursuing her and her attempting to fight him off, which is what "stalking" and "begging" suggests. In OMWF, before they get into their sexual relationship, he tells her to go back inside and be with her friends, but she says she "doesn't want too" and she initiates their first kiss.

Anyhow, I'm tired and don't have the heart to argue anymore right now. I'm just sick of Spike getting all the blame, when Buffy is no saint herself.

It's obvious that Buffy wanted Spike as much as he wanted her, if not more. She admits, and it's blatantly obvious. Spike tried to end their relationship in 'Gone' when she came over invisible. Yet, she wouldn't leave. Eventually, he did kick her out, prompting her confusion and surprise with her line "He threw me out? He threw me!"
 
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Oh yeah, Xaph. I am loving this, it would be incredibly boring if we thought the same. I like the Buffy/Spike thing. I think it is great storyline, and it made for extremely good tv. I still don't understand what we are placing blame for. I think there is no need to place any blame on either of them.

And Xaph, you should have posted that karma so you can get to 500, lol. But thanks for the karma 🙂.
 
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Hey look at my Buffy icon I made:
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Ok, carry on with the Spike- hate 😉
 
Ok I haven't read all the pages but I felt like I had to post about the whole attempted rape in Seeing Red.

The first time I watched the episode, I was took by surprise. Not only because Buffy didn't just kick Spike's ass, but also it felt kinda forced to me. As if somehow that time, Buffy wasn't able to fight back because she had got hurt(since when does that stop her?) and of what happened previously with Spike(yea I guess...).

I know what was the goal of that scene, and Spike had to go get back his soul at some point. But i'm sure Joss could have thought of a more credible way to do it.

Now, does that scene disturb me? Did I change my mind about Spike after it? A bit, and no. First of all, I just couldn't imagine Spike really going through with it at that point of the series. The way the scene was filmed though was kinda disturbing.

As for Spike, I didn't see him differently because to me he always had been dangerous, chip or not. Being around him, going as far as getting pretty close to him, having sex with him multiple times, was a risk Buffy took. That scene like I said up there didn't feel right to me, but it wasn't out of character for Spike. He's funny, he's cool, he's very likeable sometimes, but he's still a dangerous vampire. He wasn't like Angel at that point, he still didn't have his soul back.

Now as for the comparison with Angelus in s2. I always thought you just couldn't put the blame on Angel for what he had done as Angelus. It's understandable for Giles to have something against him because Angelus put him through a really tough ordeal with the death of his love and the torture session afterward. And with things like that, logic doesn't come into play. But all in all, Angel isn't Angelus. Angel got turned into a vampire, he wasn't responsible for all his acts. Sure someone could argue that his way of life as a human got him turned into a vampire and pretty much caused everything that he did afterward, but that would be something else to discuss =P
 
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Yes, it definitely seemed forced, I agree.
I agree. I just don't agree that you're blaming Spike for it. Like Joan says, there's noone to blame. Sh*t happens, and karma's a b*tch.

I'm blaming Spike for it because he's the one who tried to rape her.

The same is true for Buffy re: Spike. She is entirely "guilty" of using and exploiting Spike, so that removes "innocence" right out of the "rape".
(And, just as with Wood, it doesn't make Spike right, but it makes his actions very understandable.)

Theses are completely different things. Spike killed Wood's mother, so Wood tried to kill Spike out of revenge. If you're saying that they are the same things, then you're saying that Buffy sexually exploited Spike and so Spike tried to rape her out of revenge? They are completely different situtation and you know it.

If giving one character a "not right but understandable" free pass, and denying it another in a similar situation isn't prejudice - well hello Queen Elizabeth (see below), I'm Katherine the Great.[/QUIOTE]

See above - it's not the same situation. Then there are many other factors surrounding the events in question.

Have you even watched the same show? That's total nonsense! He wanted to be loved by Buffy, not used by her. Settling for some small morsel because you can't get the big package.

By the same logic, Buffy really only wanted a platonic friendship with Angel. I mean, she never once tried to have sex with him in all of S3, right? I guess she found out she didn't like Angel's bed skills in Innocence/Surprise. :whatever:

The bit in bold is exactly the argument I made. Yes he wanted more, but he was entirely happy with what he got, and, yes, he did follow her around and beg for more. I'm getting tired of saying that, because it's so plain to see from the episodes. Just accept it.

My argument is that he didn't try to rape Buffy. He tried to have sex with her, which tragically and accidentally turned out to be rape, despite Spike's will.

He. Tried. To. Have. Sex. With. Her. Against. Her. Will. That. Is. Attempted. Rape.

Pleased to meet you, your majesty. With Spuffy, violence and struggle and "no" doesn't mean rape. It's just sex.

Hoo-ray, a relationship with feelings so intense that the two of them express them by periodically raping each other. I wonder why I don't like this ship. :whatever:

Like I said, I'm sorry for you living bound by such a moral mindset, and needing to defend it with sarcasm. Been there, done that, glad I recovered.

Some things are good and some things are bad. Like Wesley said - "There's a line. Good and evil. Black and white." Some things are evil, no matter what the circumstances, and rape is one of those things.

Facepalm right back at ya. What stopped her from moving to a tiny backwater village somewhere in Minnesota and let demons be demons for a generation?

Uh, the fact that she was the one and only slayer? The corrupt council that would likely have had her killed if she refused to fight in order to get a new slayer called? The legions of vampires and demons that would seek her out so that they could be the ones to kill the slayer? Her mystical, undeniable calling that the show spent 7 years establishing was completely inescapable, even with a second slayer and an ensouled vampire available to help?

The difference, of course, is that Spike never attempted to rape Buffy.

But he did. Please stop denying that. That would be like me denying that Faith ever killed anyone, or that Angel likes Barry Manilow. No matter how bad the things our favourite characters do are, we cannot just bury our heads in the sand and live in denial. They happened, end of story.

And - Wood gave up his vengeance gig? What show were you watching? He tried to KILL SPIKE, for crying out loud!?

I meant that he gave up his vengance gig after trying to kill Spike.

Going to get his soul, out of his own decision, is more noble than anything Angel has done to date.

In your opinion. I think that the soul-getting is worth a tally point in the "good" column, but that's not nearly enough to weight against all the bad stuff yet.

Killing someone who lured you into a trap to kill you hardly qualifies as not noble, so indeed, just beating the guy up and not killing him was pretty nice of Spike. I'd have had no complaints with him if he'd chosen to snap the guy's neck then and there. He had it coming to him.

No, Spike had it coming to him, he killed Wood's mother. Buffy was right to try to stop it, Spike was indeed a force for good then and was needed for the battle. This doesn't leave Wood indebted to Spike because Spike was kind enough not to kill him. That would put Spike 2-0 up on the murder count. If Wood had killed Spike then it would've been a 1-1 draw.

There's a lot of things to be disagreed with about Buffy in S7, but her speech to messed up Wood makes me give her a "Go, Girl!" every time I watch it.

Really? I gave her a "shut up, bitca" when I watched it. Then again that was my reaction to her for most of S7.

Which are words entirely unfitting for the bathroom scene. Two people tragically hurting themselves and each other. If you really wanna use words like "victim" and "perpetrator" there, they apply to Buffy and Spike equally.

I refuse to lay any blame on Buffy for almost getting raped. He tried to rape her - in that bathroom he was the rapist and she was the rapee. It doesn't matter what questionable things happened elsewhere, the fact is that that is what happened in that bathroom.

Your arguments are thoughtful and articulate, but I still vehemently disagree with the idea that Spike alone "begged" and "stalked" Buffy for her affections. The fact of the matter is that Buffy initiated their sexual relationship, and she kept coming back to him for more. They were using each other equally. Look at the evidence: She tries to turn him down in "Gone" when he comes to her house after her shift, but she gives in. She goes to him later in the same ep and he tries to resist, and he gives him. It was a vicious cycle of manipulation, and both were guilty! She goes to him in "Into the Woods"...get where I'm coming from?

I never said that Buffy didn't go to Spike. But yes, he did follow her around a lot asking her to sleep with him again. Am I talking to myself here? It happened!

Anyhow, I'm tired and don't have the heart to argue anymore right now. I'm just sick of Spike getting all the blame, when Buffy is no saint herself.

Spike is getting all the blame here because a) this is a thread talking about the AR, which Spike did commit and therefore is responsible for, and b) it's a thread about Spike, full stop. If it was a thread about Buffy's behaviour in S6 you'd be seeing a lot more anti-Buffy talk, but we're discussing Spike here.

It's obvious that Buffy wanted Spike as much as he wanted her, if not more. She admits, and it's blatantly obvious. Spike tried to end their relationship in 'Gone' when she came over invisible. Yet, she wouldn't leave. Eventually, he did kick her out, prompting her confusion and surprise with her line "He threw me out? He threw me!"

You're right. Buffy is just as much an irritating git in S6/7 as Spike is. Glad we agree on that. 🙂
 
I'm blaming Spike for it because he's the one who tried to rape her.
You'll never convince me of your theory that Spike tried to rape Buffy, and I'll never convince you of the contrary, so I won't bother keeping the debate up.

What this thread has proven beyond any chance of reasonable doubt, though, is that it remains debatable whether or not he tried to rape her. 🙂


Theses are completely different things. Spike killed Wood's mother, so Wood tried to kill Spike out of revenge. If you're saying that they are the same things, then you're saying that Buffy sexually exploited Spike and so Spike tried to rape her out of revenge? They are completely different situtation and you know it.
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See above - it's not the same situation. Then there are many other factors surrounding the events in question.
The similarities far outweigh the differences. You refuse to concede that because, seemingly, to you revenge is a justified motivation (I strongly disagree), and that a history of sexual and emotional exploitation is not connected with an "attempted rape" within the same relationship (I disagree so strongly as to find the view almost laughable).

Your frame of reference is so very different from mine that there's no point for further discussion on the issue, I'm afraid.


The bit in bold is exactly the argument I made. Yes he wanted more, but he was entirely happy with what he got, and, yes, he did follow her around and beg for more. I'm getting tired of saying that, because it's so plain to see from the episodes. Just accept it.
Buffy was no less "happy" with the situation than Spike, in fact, a lot of the time, she was far "happier" with it than him (e.g., the whole of "Gone"), and she did no less follow him around to beg for more. If that isn't plain to see for you, your lense is very distorted, indeed.


Hoo-ray, a relationship with feelings so intense that the two of them express them by periodically raping each other. I wonder why I don't like this ship. :whatever:
Thank you very much for totally ignoring what I said. The Spuffy ship (as in, the love story between Spike and Buffy) went for a time-out between Smashed and Seeing Red. I do not like that part at all, in fact I don't know anyone who does. It is NOT what Spuffy is about. Spuffy is about coming back from the dark place, not about the sad, disturbing time of dwelling in it.

If you measure the value of the Spuffy ship on that, then you'll have to measure Bangel on one part killing off the friends of the other and getting sadistic kicks out of torturing her in general. Seems like raping each other periodically would actually be more benign than that, no? At least the amount of abuse is balanced, and not one-sided as with Bangel. :whatever:


Some things are good and some things are bad. Like Wesley said - "There's a line. Good and evil. Black and white." Some things are evil, no matter what the circumstances, and rape is one of those things.
I disagree wholeheartedly. "Good" and "evil" are fabrications, arbitrary labels used by an authoritarian mindset to ease the discomfort of living in a complex world beyond one's control. I believe (judging from my own experience) that the world would be a much nicer place if we all could just leave morality behind. For my part, I'm definitely happy and relieved that I've disposed of that baggage in my life.


Uh, the fact that she was the one and only slayer? The corrupt council that would likely have had her killed if she refused to fight in order to get a new slayer called? The legions of vampires and demons that would seek her out so that they could be the ones to kill the slayer? Her mystical, undeniable calling that the show spent 7 years establishing was completely inescapable, even with a second slayer and an ensouled vampire available to help?
She never even tried, now did she? And as for bringing the Council into the question, I advise you to take another look at episodes like "Helpless", "Graduation Day 1", and "Checkpoint". If you argue that Nikki had no choice but to toe the Council line, I wonder if you can explain to me what happened in those episodes?

And as for "Prophecy Girl" - dude, what a boring episode, on the background of your argument. "I'm 16, I don't want to die"? Boo hoo, stop wasting time whining and go do your job, you stupid girl! Teenagers, seriously. 😉


But he did. Please stop denying that. That would be like me denying that Faith ever killed anyone, or that Angel likes Barry Manilow. No matter how bad the things our favourite characters do are, we cannot just bury our heads in the sand and live in denial. They happened, end of story.
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I refuse to lay any blame on Buffy for almost getting raped. He tried to rape her - in that bathroom he was the rapist and she was the rapee. It doesn't matter what questionable things happened elsewhere, the fact is that that is what happened in that bathroom.
I'm not "denying" anything. You pose your theory as fact, and I challenge that claim. It's plain to see for me that Spike did not try to rape Buffy, and also that Buffy did a lot to bring the bathroom situation onto herself.

(Which, just to make it clear, is not the same as saying she deserved it. I'm not a moralist, so I could hardly care less about guilt and punishment; instead, I'm arguing within categories of responsibility and consequence. The fact that a moralist viewpoint tends to regard these as meaning the same thing merely shows the limitations of said viewpoint.)

So, obviously, as there's two conflicting views on the table, the situation is not based in fact, but a matter of perspective open to interpretation. That is what you are, indeed, denying. 🙂


I meant that he gave up his vengance gig after trying to kill Spike.
Which is a real big deal and worth noticing, seeing as both Spike and Buffy made it unmistakably clear to him that he'd used up his one free pass and would be one chunk of dead principal if he tried it again. 😀


In your opinion. I think that the soul-getting is worth a tally point in the "good" column, but that's not nearly enough to weight against all the bad stuff yet.
I wonder, then, where you stand on everyone treating Angel as if he were a good guy. (Except for Giles and Xander, of course, who always saw through that act.) What exactly had he done to "weigh against" mass murder, rape and torture for the sheer fun of it? A few decades of eating gutter rats are hardly hero material. And don't even get me started at his lies and denial about what he'd done, post-soul. (Yes I know, the glories of retcon... But fiddling retcon into canon leads to Angel inarguably LYING to Buffy in "Angel"... probably because he was wetting his pants that she'd stake him then and there if he were truthful to her about himself killing people, feeding on human blood, and siring vampires, after he got his soul.) If Spike stands at one tally point, Angel may well come in at a big fat zero or even in the negative, especially considering the time spent. (Tally points per year? Angel will need A LOT of time before he can hope of catching up on Spike!)

And note that it's comparing SOULED Angel with UNSOULED Spike here. That alone should make clear that if Spike's redemption is in doubt, Angel (souled Angel, not Angelus!) must in comparison truly be the scum of the Earth and should have met the business end of Mr Pointy a handful of eps into S1.


No, Spike had it coming to him, he killed Wood's mother. Buffy was right to try to stop it, Spike was indeed a force for good then and was needed for the battle. This doesn't leave Wood indebted to Spike because Spike was kind enough not to kill him. That would put Spike 2-0 up on the murder count. If Wood had killed Spike then it would've been a 1-1 draw.
If killing an attacker who used lethal force against you rates as murder in your book, Buffy is a professional serial murderer, and so was every Slayer since time immemorial. Wonder why they even let her run free, and why hardened career criminals like her would be shown as a hero and role model.

And as for killing Wood's mother... By not trying to split city for a home on the range, Nikki agreed to the rules of the game. Vampire. Slayer. Two men enter, one man leaves. It may not be nice, but it's the cold hard facts, and Spike, other than Wood, had understood it perfectly. (Besides, Nikki was a serial killer by your logic, so why should anyone care if she snuffs it?)


Spike is getting all the blame here because a) this is a thread talking about the AR, which Spike did commit and therefore is responsible for, and b) it's a thread about Spike, full stop. If it was a thread about Buffy's behaviour in S6 you'd be seeing a lot more anti-Buffy talk, but we're discussing Spike here.
Sorry, but that's beyond ridiculous. If the thread is about Spike alone, and Buffy is not to enter the reasoning, what's left to discuss? It's a thread about the bathroom scene, and there's two people in that one. Take one of them out of it, and what do you have left to blame Spike for, exactly? What's his crime - being in the show, wasting screen time? (I know a lot of people say exactly that about him in S7, but that's obviously a topic for another thread. 😛 )

Next time, we'll discuss "Passion", but the thread will be focusing on Jenny, so we'll have to leave Angelus out of it. I think we should call it "The mysterious death of Jenny Calendar - could it have been suicide?" 😀
 
You'll never convince me of your theory that Spike tried to rape Buffy, and I'll never convince you of the contrary, so I won't bother keeping the debate up.

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Spike attempted to rape Buffy. That's the last time I'll say it. There is no debate. It happened. Accept it.

The similarities far outweigh the differences. You refuse to concede that because, seemingly, to you revenge is a justified motivation (I strongly disagree),

Not justified - understandable and forgivable.

and that a history of sexual and emotional exploitation is not connected with an "attempted rape" within the same relationship (I disagree so strongly as to find the view almost laughable).

Whatever Buffy did, that does not make her repsonsible for the AR. Nothing any girl could ever have done would ever cause me to lay even the slightest bit of blame on her for almost getting raped.

Buffy was no less "happy" with the situation than Spike, in fact, a lot of the time, she was far "happier" with it than him (e.g., the whole of "Gone"), and she did no less follow him around to beg for more. If that isn't plain to see for you, your lense is very distorted, indeed.

Was I talking about Buffy? I was just making the point that yes, Spike did enjoy being used. Whether or not Buffy enjoyed it is beside the point.

Thank you very much for totally ignoring what I said. The Spuffy ship (as in, the love story between Spike and Buffy) went for a time-out between Smashed and Seeing Red. I do not like that part at all, in fact I don't know anyone who does. It is NOT what Spuffy is about. Spuffy is about coming back from the dark place, not about the sad, disturbing time of dwelling in it.

Spuffy started while the the characters where in their sad, disturbing, depressing times. There's no way that cannot colour the rest of the ship for me.

If you measure the value of the Spuffy ship on that, then you'll have to measure Bangel on one part killing off the friends of the other and getting sadistic kicks out of torturing her in general. Seems like raping each other periodically would actually be more benign than that, no? At least the amount of abuse is balanced, and not one-sided as with Bangel. :whatever:

Hold on.... you think I'm a Bangel shipper, don't you?

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I disagree wholeheartedly. "Good" and "evil" are fabrications, arbitrary labels used by an authoritarian mindset to ease the discomfort of living in a complex world beyond one's control. I believe (judging from my own experience) that the world would be a much nicer place if we all could just leave morality behind.

OK, you clearly have a completely different moral mindset to me. Let's drop this line of discussion.

She never even tried, now did she? And as for bringing the Council into the question, I advise you to take another look at episodes like "Helpless", "Graduation Day 1", and "Checkpoint". If you argue that Nikki had no choice but to toe the Council line, I wonder if you can explain to me what happened in those episodes?

What happened is that Buffy used her incredibly unique position to change how things were once done. She had the luxury to do that because she was in different circumstances - her watcher was prepared to reject the council's orders as no watcher had done before, she could rely on the help of a group of friends inculding a werewolf, a witch, and an ensouled vampire. Niki was just the slayer, the entire fate of the world rested on her and her alone and she only had the resources of the council to help her. And we're supposed to believe that it's her own fault she got killed because she didn't quit?

And as for "Prophecy Girl" - dude, what a boring episode, on the background of your argument. "I'm 16, I don't want to die"? Boo hoo, stop wasting time whining and go do your job, you stupid girl! Teenagers, seriously. 😉

Don't put words into my mouth. 🙁

I'm not "denying" anything. You pose your theory as fact, and I challenge that claim. It's plain to see for me that Spike did not try to rape Buffy, and also that Buffy did a lot to bring the bathroom situation onto herself.

a) I already said I wouldn't say it again, but here it goes - it's not a theory, it's a fact. It happened.
b) Nobody ever does anything to "bring [rape] upon themselves. 🙁

(Which, just to make it clear, is not the same as saying she deserved it. I'm not a moralist, so I could hardly care less about guilt and punishment; instead, I'm arguing within categories of responsibility and consequence. The fact that a moralist viewpoint tends to regard these as meaning the same thing merely shows the limitations of said viewpoint.)

If you're not blaming Buffy, then why bring her up at all? You say that the AR was a consequence of her actions, fair enough, but it hardly makes Buffy and Spike equally responsible for the AR. The AR didn't happen because of some unforseen consequence of something Spike did a while ago, Spike was entirely responsible for attempting to force himself on Buffy there and then. It didn't just happen, he made it happen.

Which is a real big deal and worth noticing, seeing as both Spike and Buffy made it unmistakably clear to him that he'd used up his one free pass and would be one chunk of dead principal if he tried it again.

Except the show acted like this was a show of noble grace from both Buffy and Spike, and Wood should be grateful for it. A massive problem with S7 was that, in my view, Spike and Buffy were constantly portrayed as being always right, and we as viewers were basically told that they were always right, despite massive evidence to the contrary.

I wonder, then, where you stand on everyone treating Angel as if he were a good guy. (Except for Giles and Xander, of course, who always saw through that act.)

People who didn't treat Angel as a good guy:
Giles
Xander
Faith (early on)
Wesley (early on)
Riley
Holtz
Justine
Connor

People who didn't treat Spike like a good guy:
Xander (early on, his objections kinda disappeared halfway through S7)
Giles
Wood

So more people rejected Angel's reformation/ensouling that did Spike. And most of this came after Angel had spent years of toil and sacrifice in LA, while everyone seemed to accept Spike as having reformed straight after hearing that "he has a sooouuul now", before any actually redemption was done.

A major mitigating factor is how the people opposing Angel/Spike's redemption were portrayed by the show. Compare Wood and Giles. Angel tells Giles that he's sorry for Jenny's death, and that Giles have every right to hate him, and that [Angel] doesn't deserve forgiveness. And Giles' dislike of Angel is portrayed as being entirely justified. On the other hand, Spike tells Wood that he "doesn't give a piss" about Wood's mum, and Wood is portrayed as being petty and entirely wrong in his vengance.
Because in S7, neither Spike nor Buffy can ever do anything wrong, ever.

Thirdly, we must adress how "rewarded" each of them is for their redemption. Angel spends all his time helping the helpless, and is pretty much rejected by most members of his society, being forced to live seperately. He has an evil, all-powerful law firm up his ass all day and all night, most of his closest friends die while helping him, he's unable to make love with any woman he loves, and his own son hates his guts. On the whole, his redemption is largely unrewarded, therefore gaining sympathy from the audience. Spike on the other hand does not have to suffer any of the above, the woman that he loves and yet hurt in the worst way possible forgives him entirely and he gets to spend the night in her arms. He is pretty much directly rewarded by Buffy for his redemption, therefore gaining loathing from me.

What exactly had he done... etc.

Watch AtS. Years of selfless, unrewarding sacrifice, that's what.

And note that it's comparing SOULED Angel with UNSOULED Spike here. That alone should make clear that if Spike's redemption is in doubt, Angel (souled Angel, not Angelus!) must in comparison truly be the scum of the Earth and should have met the business end of Mr Pointy a handful of eps into S1.

I'm honestly not sure of the point you're trying to make here.

If killing an attacker who used lethal force against you rates as murder in your book,

If you kill a person in self-defence, that's not murder. If you beat a person up in self-defence, then while they're lying barely concious on the ground, decide to kill them, that's murder. The latter is what Spike threatened to do.

Buffy is a professional serial murderer, and so was every Slayer since time immemorial. Wonder why they even let her run free, and why hardened career criminals like her would be shown as a hero and role model.

Unsouled, unchipped vampires = evil, m'kay? That's why Buffy's the heroine. She's not just one side of a war, she's the good guy, remember?

And as for killing Wood's mother... By not trying to split city for a home on the range, Nikki agreed to the rules of the game. Vampire. Slayer. Two men enter, one man leaves. It may not be nice, but it's the cold hard facts, and Spike, other than Wood, had understood it perfectly.

Slayers don't sign up for anything! They are called and ordered to fight. Niki didn't know what she was getting into, she was just ordered to get into it. She didn't agree to any rules, she was chosen by mystical powers beyond her control

Sorry, but that's beyond ridiculous. If the thread is about Spike alone, and Buffy is not to enter the reasoning, what's left to discuss? It's a thread about the bathroom scene, and there's two people in that one. Take one of them out of it, and what do you have left to blame Spike for, exactly? What's his crime - being in the show, wasting screen time?

This thread is all about Spike's role in the AR - specifically comparing him to Angel. I was pointing that out to explain why there is not much talk about Buffy in this thread - because she may be related to the subject, but this thread is not about her. This point is not linked to my argument, I'm just explaining why there's not much talk about Buffy here.
 
I never said that Buffy didn't go to Spike. But yes, he did follow her around a lot asking her to sleep with him again. Am I talking to myself here? It happened!
Ok, I guess I misunderstood you. I just wanted to be clear with the point that BOTH parties involved went to each other. Yes, I agree, Spike DID follow her around asking why she couldn't sleep with him anymore after she broke up with him.

Spike is getting all the blame here because a) this is a thread talking about the AR, which Spike did commit and therefore is responsible for, and b) it's a thread about Spike, full stop. If it was a thread about Buffy's behaviour in S6 you'd be seeing a lot more anti-Buffy talk, but we're discussing Spike here.
True, we do need to stay on topic, I agree.

This thread was started to discuss why there is a grudge on Spike.

You're right. Buffy is just as much an irritating git in S6/7 as Spike is. Glad we agree on that. 🙂
Well, I love Buffy unconditionally, but yes even I agree the way she acted in parts of S6-7 were not her finest hours 😉

Spike attempted to rape Buffy. That's the last time I'll say it. There is no debate. It happened. Accept it.
See, but there is a debate, which is obvious due to what is happening in this thread. Just because you, and most of us here, believe that Spike tried to rape Buffy in SR does not mean everyone else believes this was his intention.

Look, maybe this isn't my place, but you asked insanemystic not to "put words in your mouth" but that is what you just did with this statement. You say that "there is no debate" and to "accept it."Insanemystic doesn't believe Spike attempted to rape Buffy. That's the facts. It's not a popular belief, but his belief is valid.

Why? We, myself included, think of this show as a text to be interpreted in whatever way we choose. That is the beauty of fiction. If he chooses to believe that Spike's intention was NOT to rape Buffy in that scene, then that's his interpretation. You do not need to agree, but you can't tell him what to believe. Telling him to "accept" it will do nothing to change his mind. It's like asking me to "admit" that Buffy was lying when she said she loved Spike in 'Chosen.' Yes, Spike did attempt to rape Buffy. BUT, some fans choose to interpret his intentions in that scene differently. There's is nothing wrong with that.

Also, please remember that a person's belief on the actions of a fictional character don't necessarily reflect their views on the subject in RL. 🙂
 
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Spike attempted to rape Buffy. That's the last time I'll say it. There is no debate. It happened. Accept it.
What Joan said. It's you who has to accept that there is a debate (because... duh! whatcha doing here right now? :lmao: ). You don't have to take over my viewpoint as yours, but you WILL have to accept that my viewpoint is a viewpoint. 😉


Not justified - understandable and forgivable.
You said "justified", before, though. 😉
If you limit it to "understandable and forgivable", then you have no complaint coming from me, anymore. However, I sort Spike's actions in the bathroom scene into the same category.


Whatever Buffy did, that does not make her repsonsible for the AR. Nothing any girl could ever have done would ever cause me to lay even the slightest bit of blame on her for almost getting raped.
I accept that this is your viewpoint. You'll have to accept that mine is different. 🙂


Was I talking about Buffy? I was just making the point that yes, Spike did enjoy being used. Whether or not Buffy enjoyed it is beside the point.
I don't think it's beside the point. Whether or not Buffy enjoyed being used has a lot to do with the evaluation of the bathroom scene.


Spuffy started while the the characters where in their sad, disturbing, depressing times. There's no way that cannot colour the rest of the ship for me.
Absolutely disagree. Spuffy as a full-blown ship started in S5's "Intervention", with one-sided preliminaries going back even further, to "Out Of My Mind". There was no trace of sad, disturbing, and depressing times back then for Buffy (not in the sense you mean it here, anyway), and significantly less for Spike, too.


Hold on.... you think I'm a Bangel shipper, don't you?

HAHAHAHAHAHAA!
:lmao: : rotflmao
Well, ok then, that's a mistake of mine I readily apologize for. Noone should be wrongly accused of being a Bangel. Ever. 😀


OK, you clearly have a completely different moral mindset to me. Let's drop this line of discussion.
Agreed. 🙂


What happened is that Buffy used her incredibly unique position to change how things were once done. She had the luxury to do that because she was in different circumstances - her watcher was prepared to reject the council's orders as no watcher had done before, she could rely on the help of a group of friends inculding a werewolf, a witch, and an ensouled vampire. Niki was just the slayer, the entire fate of the world rested on her and her alone and she only had the resources of the council to help her. And we're supposed to believe that it's her own fault she got killed because she didn't quit?
Buffy proved it was possible, that's all I'm saying. And "her fault" is moralism, again. It wasn't her fault, but it was a consequence of a choice she made.


Don't put words into my mouth. 🙁
I didn't. I used your argument and applied its logical conclusion to another situation. Tried and true method of challenging someone's point in a debate ever since the old Greeks. I do admit, though, it's bordering heavily on sarcasm, the way I worded it. 🙂


a) I already said I wouldn't say it again, but here it goes - it's not a theory, it's a fact. It happened.
b) Nobody ever does anything to "bring [rape] upon themselves. 🙁
See above, on both accounts. It's your viewpoint, and it is getting challenged, so nope to the "fact" and yay to the "theory". 😉


If you're not blaming Buffy, then why bring her up at all? You say that the AR was a consequence of her actions, fair enough, but it hardly makes Buffy and Spike equally responsible for the AR. The AR didn't happen because of some unforseen consequence of something Spike did a while ago, Spike was entirely responsible for attempting to force himself on Buffy there and then. It didn't just happen, he made it happen.
Because I'm not blaming Spike either, that's why. If you choose to dish out blame, I think that Spike and Buffy must be given equal shares of it. If you don't assign blame but speak of responsibility, then HELL YES, it must be given to Spike and Buffy in equal shares.

To bring our disagreement to the point:

You, as a moralist, say that trying to have sex with someone against their will is always rape, and thus, always evil. (Within that frame of reference, your assessment of the bathroom scene is indeed correct.)

I, as a relativist, say that every situation must be analyzed by itself, and that "against her will" gets outweighed by other factors in this specific one. Spike wanted to have sex with her, period; it does not matter very much, given the circumstances, that it happened to be against her will. That in itself doesn't make it deserve to be called "rape", even though it most definitely was inadequate and hurtful.

Either of us will consider the other one's view as murking the definition of rape, and thus, being a slap in the face of innocent victims of rape - a group which by your definition includes Buffy, by mine does not include her.

That's where we stand, and that's where we'll have to agree to disagree. Ok for you?


Except the show acted like this was a show of noble grace from both Buffy and Spike, and Wood should be grateful for it. A massive problem with S7 was that, in my view, Spike and Buffy were constantly portrayed as being always right, and we as viewers were basically told that they were always right, despite massive evidence to the contrary.
While I agree that the "Saint Buffy Syndrome" is quite notable in S7, I disagree that it applies here. Spike and her were right in their action towards Wood not because they can do no wrong, but because, well, they happened to be right this time. 😉


People who didn't treat Angel as a good guy:
Giles
Xander
Faith (early on)
Wesley (early on)
Riley
Holtz
Justine
Connor
Your list is correct. However, given that the debate was sparked on you judging Spike from a point mere months after getting is soul, I do not think it is adequate to include people's opinions after Season 1 of BtVS in this discussion. In all fairness, counting in anything happening later than one year after getting cursed by the Gypsy tribe is giving Angel a lucky break, but I feel generous tonight. 😀


Watch AtS. Years of selfless, unrewarding sacrifice, that's what.
By the same token, anything in AtS (playing after Buffy S1) must be disregarded in the discussion.


On the other hand, Spike tells Wood that he "doesn't give a piss" about Wood's mum, and Wood is portrayed as being petty and entirely wrong in his vengance.
Which I don't have a problem with. IMO, that's true of every quest for vengeance. Understandable? Yep. Forgivable? Yep. Anything else but wrong? Nope.


Thirdly, we must adress how "rewarded" each of them is for their redemption. Angel spends all his time helping the helpless, and is pretty much rejected by most members of his society, being forced to live seperately.
Nope. For the time frame in question, he spent by far most of his time brooding, eating rats, and neglecting his hygiene. With some snacks on criminals and recently dead guys, and one siring of a vampire thrown in.


On the whole, his redemption is largely unrewarded, therefore gaining sympathy from the audience.
His chance for redemption was neither deserved nor wanted. It was thrust upon him against his will. That's what makes him start out with a HUGE "debt" compared to Spike, who, while soulless, started to actively go and seek redemption. Angel had it handed to him on a silver platter when he couldn't have cared less about it; Spike put blood sweat and tears into getting it, when it's a miracle that he DID give a damn about it.


Spike on the other hand does not have to suffer any of the above, the woman that he loves and yet hurt in the worst way possible forgives him entirely and he gets to spend the night in her arms. He is pretty much directly rewarded by Buffy for his redemption, therefore gaining loathing from me.
She hurt him, too, and by forgiving him, she accepts her share of responsibility for it. You can't take Buffy and her S6 behavior out of the equation.


If you kill a person in self-defence, that's not murder. If you beat a person up in self-defence, then while they're lying barely concious on the ground, decide to kill them, that's murder. The latter is what Spike threatened to do.
If someone comes to kill you, twice, I just can't seem to care. Wood gets no sympathy from me, if anything, he got served a soft deal there and should be grateful. Do as you want, but don't come crying if the consequences of your actions come to f*** you up.


Unsouled, unchipped vampires = evil, m'kay? That's why Buffy's the heroine. She's not just one side of a war, she's the good guy, remember?
"Good" and "evil", not my cuppa tea, m'kay? If killing your attempted killer is murder, then Buffy is a mass murderer (who quips in her victims' faces, on top of it. 😉 )


Slayers don't sign up for anything! They are called and ordered to fight. Niki didn't know what she was getting into, she was just ordered to get into it. She didn't agree to any rules, she was chosen by mystical powers beyond her control
You can ignore it. Just say no. 🙂 It's not heroic, and you'd have to be damn jaded to do it beacuse people WILL die who otherwise wouldn't have died... but it is a choice. Responsibility. Consequence. 🙂


This thread is all about Spike's role in the AR - specifically comparing him to Angel. I was pointing that out to explain why there is not much talk about Buffy in this thread - because she may be related to the subject, but this thread is not about her. This point is not linked to my argument, I'm just explaining why there's not much talk about Buffy here.
You can't talk about Spike's role in it without speaking of Buffy's role in it. A man alone on an empty stage is NEVER a rapist, not even by your definition. 😉
 
You guys have more patience than me. I haven't even had the energy to read everything you've said. Sorry. But about the question if Spike tried to rape Buffy or not. Rape means that someone has sex against someone elses will. And that both are included in the act obviously. (That you don't like a friend having sex with your enemy doesn't count. 😉) Rape attemt is when someone is trying to have sex against someone's will. Or am I wrong? Did Spike want to have sex with Buffy? Did Buffy want to have sex with Spike in this moment?

I feel confused. I must have missed something vital since it seems it can be argued that it wasn't a rape attemt. Please point me to the post that explains it. Or did I just dream that someone argued that? My head's such a mess...
 
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Please point me to the post that explains it. Or did I just dream that someone argued that? My head's such a mess...

TK, all that's happening is that TheVoid68 and InsaneMystic disagree on the definition of rape, and therefore as result of this, are having a lively debate regarding Spike's intentions in 'Seeing Red.'

It's very...contained. Perhaps it's best not to intervene. 😉
 
Okay, technically, it was a rape attempt.

But a person that has actually WATCHED the show, and took in the relationship between Buffy and Spike, would know that that is how their relationship had worked, at least when Buffy was in the driving seat. Spike simply followed what he had always done with Buffy -- use force. And did you see how he reacted once he knew what Buffy was feeling? He was HORRIFIED.
 
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