I have met a handful of man-hating feminists who interpreted feminism as "men vs women" rather than something more about equality, but they were definitely the exception AND they caught flak from other feminists. (And NONE became feminists "because I was cheated on," and with all the feminists AND anti-feminists rants I've heard over the years, this is even the first I've heard of that one being the reason! I get the impression that the man hating kind are more asexual, even the ones who identify as lesbian.)
At least that's feminism offline, I'm not sure what to make of online stuff as that's where people really let their crazy out (or like one said, nitpick over trivial things to the point that actual important stuff is either overlooked, or dealt with in a counterproductive way). But even then they get called on it by other feminists, though I know of at least one (who basically called Joss Whedom a promoter of rape culture through not only Firefly but also Buffy, IIRC--just to be clear here, this wasn't a rational critique of JW works which also exist, this was the kind of unabashed ridiculousness that you'll typically only find on the internet rather than real life) who kept deleting any post criticizing her (especially criticizing her in the name of feminism), unless it was a "you're an evil bitch" type (I presume to show how men hate women so women had better hate men, or maybe men spewing hate at her made her feel validated in her beliefs while feminists instead debating her argument made her insecure).
Online, it seems more popular to hate on feminism. I emphasize "seems" as I don't plunge often into its depths of its madness often and tend to shy away from the ideological crazy (including both the warped feminism and anti-feminism), but it turns up consistently in surprising places, and I've encountered such sentiments far more than the rabid feminist kind even on comic pages, even when it had nothing at all to do with the comic (same for news articles and the like). Like the news, the comics site I visit canceled out all comments because of all the constant political (including lots of hate for feminists while pro-feminist was rare) and religious bile that people couldn't seem to keep themselves from posting. Plenty of times the comments made me want to weep for humanity more than even news of terrorism and the like, because it seemed so pervasive, like it was ordinary for people to think these things secretly whereas the evil people did seemed to be by relatively few (but then again many mistake the few extremists for the entire group which I suppose is the same as equating all feminists with the worst of them). I don't just mean anti-feminism, but all sorts of ideologies (and religion and anti-religion), heck even some identifying as feminist could be disturbing or annoying to me, when it was the kind of craziness that seems all too common online as opposed to when people at least try to fake sanity (as they do when face to face rather than cloaked in anonymity).
Years ago I was invited to join a message board that dealt with a lot of philosophy because the guy who invited me wanted to weigh in on a certain subject. So I did, but experienced weeks of demonizing females (especially feminism, but the hatred was against all females, and I don't see why gender mattered at all) and giving me a hard time no matter how friendly I was (though some, including mods, would tell them to cool it but it would always start back up), and yet had the gall to complain that women didn't like the board or them personally (they really had no idea why this was so?
🙄 ) so I just left. I went back a few weeks later but saw another anti-woman rant (and one I'd seen repeated in one form or another since I got there) so I left again. Six months later I visited one last time and found 3 rants against women or feminism. Now these did get argued so it wasn't like the entire board, but no one EVER (to my knowledge) ever posted a pro-feminism thread, and the hostility was so constant and I just felt unwelcome just for not being born male and have never returned, but those who constantly hated on females honestly don't seem to realize they're the reason why females stay away.
And YouTube has promoted various types of anti-feminism vids to me on multiple occasions, and I'm not even sure why (though I got a bunch once after I looked up game play vids, which I recall because I clicked on a few out of curiosity), but in all my years they have never promoted a pro-feminist vid to me (or if they did then it was so long ago that I don't recall--wait, there is Samantha Bee and Young Turks, but that's more generally liberal that includes feminism, and I'm sure pay to get extra promotion) despite that I know they have them (heck, I used to be subscribed to one feminist channel, but I still get anti-feminist vids promoted to me).
And with notable exceptions (like Joss Whedon's works), it seems most feminists portrayed on TV and movies are the
straw feminist kind, and that even includes an episode of Eerie, Indiana I saw as a child (Reality Takes a Holiday in case anyone is curious). I think it's often done as a cheap laugh rather than trying to demonize a movement, but it wouldn't be so pervasive if it was costing them too many viewers, and I've also noticed that many people mistake what they see over and over in the media for reality as well.
