As you said, a lot of this falls on the writers and the arcs they created. Of course they couldn't have Spike wallow for 100 years if he was to return to Sunnydale in order to save the world a few months later. So there's an understandable disappointment there, for sure. I think they tried to expedite the grief period by having him do things like try to cut out his own heart and begging Buffy to kill him, (twice). It's unfair to say he was unchanged or felt no remorse.
I don't know if unfair is the word I would use but I understand my take isn't the take every viewer will have, especially Spike fans. I acknowledge that Spike does go on a journey of self-realisation about his soul that doesn't really begin until he puts on that amulet in "Chosen", but at the same time I find it very hard to care about that journey during S7 when he is doing things like threatening to kill Wood. A man, while trying to bring harm to Spike, had his entire life ruined by Spike, and Spike doesn't care about that. For me to care about Spike I need him to care about this kind of stuff. That's my personal perference and taste as a consumer of entertainer. I suppose I expected Spike to be humbled in some way by having a soul, to see the desperation of Wood and acknowledge the major role his former self played in leading that man to that point where he was trying to kill Spike. Maybe that comes later for Spike? I think we see the beginnings of it in "Damage", but fair or not, things like this sway my opinion of Spike massively. I can't think of many situations where I identify or empathise with Spike and his choices.
But here's what I don't understand: why is it unacceptable for fans to both laud him for his good deeds AND hold him accountable for the horrific ones? Starting in season 5 when his values clearly begin to shift, he is no longer wholly bad but he of course is not good, either. Some fans, myself included, decide that he cannot be labeled but rather that he exists in a grey area in seasons 5 and 6. He is progressing toward something good but obviously is to be held fully accountable for the Doctor scheme and the sexual assault. I don't believe that the good things come from altruism either, but that doesn't mean that they are insignificant, especially because they are made by an entirely soulless creature who is fighting his nature in order to do them--selfishly motivated or not.
See, for me, I don't see any progression toward "goodness". I see a vampire, muzzled and adapting to the situation he finds himself in in order to survive. I don't believe for a second that he was approaching some sort of significant moral shift. That's my reading of the show and character, I understand completely that it is not everyone's take. But this is how it adds up and makes sense for me.
Agree, again, not "true" goodness. But there was enough there in order for him to realize that if he was ever going to truly control himself he would need to regain his soul.
Again, I don't believe that is why he got the soul, I think he got it to make Buffy love him. I watched the episode several times, I've read the shooting script even more times, and nowhere in it do I see a being seeking out a way to reign itself in.
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