what's your opinion on cursing?

Hero said:
By age 5 I knew what all the grown up words were too. But I got my butt handed to me when I screamed the F word in the store when I dropped something on accident.

I think it should be left up to the parents. My friend has two children (6 and 3) and I was trying to censor myself, but I asked her can I just talk normally and she said sure lol
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I think it should be left to the parents too but I don't think the parents should expect anyone around them to censor unless they're asked. As I told the woman at the Taylor concert last year, it's not my job to know what that parent wants the child to hear.

To clarify that... I think if you're talking to a child or talking to the parent with the child next to them I think you should censor yourself according to common sense and the different tears of cursing. Like "shoot," "crap," and "shit." but if you're in the room with a child in it or out in public, I don't see the how the responsibility lies with the person cursing to just magically know that parent doesn't want their kid to ever be exposed to that word.
 
^^^I agree completely, I would have karma'ed you but it says I've already given you too much today lol
 
Hero said:
^^^I agree completely, I would have karma'ed you but it says I've already given you too much today lol
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It's been saying that on and off for me today. Sometimes I can rep and sometimes it says I've given too much out. It's really starting to bug me.
 
zobothehobo said:
I think it should be left to the parents too but I don't think the parents should expect anyone around them to censor unless they're asked. As I told the woman at the Taylor concert last year, it's not my job to know what that parent wants the child to hear.
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I think it's less a question of what parents want their kids to hear (let's face it, they can pick up the basics at any playground) but of how they want their kids to see and/or respect you. My parents always had the attitude "Talk like that to your peers if you must, but we don't want to hear that", i.e. they had no illusions about my vocab, lol.

Anyway, I think the decisive factor here is respect. I'm extremely language-aware and I'm quite sensitive towards the way people speak, because it always conveys an attitude, even if you don't really mean it (but then again, I think you shouldn't say anything if you don't really mean it because it's careless). As I said before, I don't have a problem with cursing in general, but I do with certain words, and if someone used them in front of my hypothetical kids, I would tell that person off and explain to my kids exactly why I don't want them to use these words.
 
mayfever said:
I think it's less a question of what parents want their kids to hear (let's face it, they can pick up the basics at any playground) but of how they want their kids to see and/or respect you. My parents always had the attitude "Talk like that to your peers if you must, but we don't want to hear that", i.e. they had no illusions about my vocab, lol.

Anyway, I think the decisive factor here is respect. I'm extremely language-aware and I'm quite sensitive towards the way people speak, because it always conveys an attitude, even if you don't really mean it (but then again, I think you shouldn't say anything if you don't really mean it because it's careless). As I said before, I don't have a problem with cursing in general, but I do with certain words, and if someone used them in front of my hypothetical kids, I would tell that person off and explain to my kids exactly why I don't want them to use these words.
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I would then explain to you I was talking to my peers. I didn't notice your kid was there because it's no my job to care. You as a parent cannot expect the outside world (outside being outside your house) to bend to your parenting style or even to the fact you have children. If I said one of these certain words to my peer as we were walking out of an arena to a Taylor Swift concert and hypothetical you turned to me and said "Hey, do you mind?! In front of my child?" I'd be like "Why not?" If you told me off, I'd tell you off right back. I'm highly sensitive when people in public act like I've done something wrong, especially when I haven't. It's not my job to change for those parents... I didn't even realize there was a 7 year old beside me... and tell you the truth, this is a side note but whatever... I don't think children younger than 8 (really 10) should go to a big concert like that. I saw more than a lot of screaming 6 year olds because the music was loud and it was late. The 7 year olds were almost as bad. To me, that in itself is irresponsible and bad parenting. And then that parent would have the NERVE to expect me to change the way I act because SHE brought her child to a concert? I don't think so. How self absorbed do you get?
 
zobothehobo said:
I would then explain to you I was talking to my peers. I didn't notice your kid was there because it's no my job to care. You as a parent cannot expect the outside world (outside being outside your house) to bend to your parenting style or even to the fact you have children.
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You are certainly right if we are talking about the outside world. Of course I would never stop random people in the street and tell them off for language because that would be preposterous. I was, however, talking about, IDK, visitors to my house and such who I think I can certainly expect to play by my rules for a little while.

Anyway, I wasn't talking about cursing in general, I was merely referring to certain words that rile me, e.g. the c word, which is extremely misogynist because it implies that a vagina is something dirty, something to be ashamed of. I don't think anyone, least of all girls and women, should use that word carelessly.
 
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I'm a girl and I'll use the C word, but I'll also call people a "Dcik" too.
When I'm at work, I do not care for patrons cursing loud enough for anyone to hear, especially little kids.

Sometimes, I curse quietly when talking to co-worker that is comfortable with me cursing because she does it too.

I end up cursing some but I try to watch myself when I'm talking to my mom or something. My dad doesn't care. And I watch myself around kids to make sure I'm not cursing around them.
 
mayfever said:
You are certainly right if we are talking about the outside world. Of course I would never stop random people in the street and tell them off for language because that would be preposterous. I was, however, talking about, IDK, visitors to my house and such who I think I can certainly expect to play by my rules for a little while.

Anyway, I wasn't talking about cursing in general, I was merely referring to certain words that rile me, e.g. the c word, which is extremely misogynist because it implies that a vagina is something dirty, something to be ashamed of. I don't think anyone, least of all girls and women, should use that word carelessly.
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Oh yeah. If I was to go over to someone's house, I would play by their rules. I'd play by the standard tears of cursing and the age the child is. If the parent wants a variation from that, they would have to tell me.

I hate the c-word. It's awful. I agree with you it implies the vagina is dirty and something to be ashamed of and I don't think it is. I, however, do use "dick" sometimes. But rarely.
 
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I do too. I admit it's something of a double standard.
I don't mind cursing at all usually and I have a mouth like a sailor, but cursing in front of little kids or older women is a big no-no for me. Also when people do it loudly in public in a store to get attention, and then look around to see who was paying attention because they think they're cool. That pisses me off a lot.
 
I dont swear because, according to other people, because im quite small in comparison to people my age and because i have a gentle personality i apparently cant pull it off 😛

The only time i have a problem with swearing is when its used as an insult, like if someone called someone a 'see you next tuesday' (the way my sister says it in front of out parents)
 
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haha, that reminds me of the SatC ep where Samantha tells Charlotte off for calling it that!
I've always been really foul mouthed, but now that I'm a Christian I really try to keep it in check, but I don't really do too well. Old habits die hard.
 
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