I think you've broken down Spike to his bare essentials 🤣 What I meant though, is that he isn't consciously fond of Giles the way that Buffy is. The antagonism is still there, regardless of its nature.I think the first part's debatable (Restless?) and an antagonistic relationship between father/son is fairly standard fare for BtVS (and Freud). That said, I think Spike's "on the cusp" - one foot in the Scoobie camp, one foot out. At the moment, he's saying one thing and doing another. He's occupying the space of the virgule - the slash in Man / Monster.
I think it just boils down to reading this scene very differently; I definitely don't think we were meant to see it as a showcase of Spike's soulless state the way the earlier scene was, but I can see where you're coming from. What really bugged me was the term "pleasure", as I've said. The show has Giles in perilous situations all the time, and as is often the case, here it is played for laughs. I genuinely don't get how him warning Giles would change anything : he still couldn't get the the vamp off him and had to wait for it to go dusty.llowing someone to believe you're letting them die (lighting the cigarette and ignoring his pleas for help) is really unnecessary, cruel and disconcerting, so for me it rates a little higher than just being an "asshole" and is a an example of Spike's soulless nature, but we can at least agree he wasn't being pleasant here. That was my point all along.
See above : saying one thing and doing another. I don't recall him singling out Willow, but talking more of the group as a whole. Whenever he interacts one on one with Willow, he's respectful enough and sometimes even friendly (Spiral, the Weight of the world, the Gift). But then they don't interact that much at all. Mostly, I don't think he cares enough to go one way or the other.) but Spike was always quite adamant that he couldn't "stand" her all the same.
Except that she's always been treating him as a person; an annoying person most of the time, but a person all the same. And ever since Intervention up until Tabula Rasa, she's been very respectful to him and definitely did not treat him a thing. I don't think she truly sees him as a thing, ever : she wants to hurt him and reject him, and she is in a very self-destructive place. It's as much about him as it is about her. I disagree that Buffy didn't hurt Spike in S6, and I don't think what she says to him in S7 is the worst thing she's ever done to him. He needed to get out of his funk state, and she gives a little bit of tough love (like she does with Willow), because Buffy is always honest with him : she doesn't coddle him and he doesn't coddle her. In any case, it's nowhere near as bad as calling him a disgusting thing or treating him as a dirty little secret (although it was a lot more complicated than that).The difference to me is that in season 6 I don't see it as being an insult exactly when Buffy calls Spike a "thing" because it's sort of the truth. I think the most out of order thing Buffy has said to Spike is in season 7 when she tells him that she wants the monster in him back. I can't remember the exact quote or episode actually but it's the only time I've felt sorry for Spike and I think it hurt more than everything Buffy said/did in season 6 because Buffy wasn't in a place to hurt Spike then.