And that's why when she breaks up with him in As You Were, he really doesn't get it. That's part of why he's so frustrated for the rest of the season.
Yes, exactly. I have to say--I truly love Buffy but this is, (in my view) an all time low for her. I understand why she ended their intimate relationship. It wasn't working at the time, (though of course I want and believe that it will in the future!) But the way she does it--the things she says--show that she doesn't understand what
Spike was trying to do for her, and that was always hard to watch. When she breaks up with him, she tells him that it's her fault, really, because she knows "what he is;" (implying low, pathetic, "evil,") and that she was merely using him.
But by that moment in "As You Were," we have seen Spike do so many good--even
great things for Buffy and for others. We've seen the two of them build a rapport, and we've seen him become a better being as he is pulled in further every day by her lightness. Because of this
insane and
reprehensible plot line with "the doctor," Buffy seemingly forgets all of the goodness and is back to labeling Spike as "soulless." "Nothing."
We, the audience, are supposed to see this as well. I never bought it. I always thought it was one of the worst things that the writers ever did on this show: build up a character, make us fall in love with his story of redemption, then knock him back down to nothing all the while trying to manipulate us into forgetting that he was ever anything more than a creature that should have been staked ages ago.
Inexcusable. "As You Were" is my least favorite episode, right behind "The Pack."