And Spike's love for Buffy didn't make him "better". It made him want his soul back yes (and I've always said that morality aside, that's damn impressive),
Exactly; it made him want to get his soul back, ergo, better. Good? No. Better? Yes, clearly. So what if it was for love that he wanted it? A vampire wanting his soul back, for love of a human being--heck, a vampire desiring to be loved by a human being--is progress. It represents a shift in values, however modest Spike's was, before his regression.
but to assume that his desire to do so was out of nobility or a desire to do good is just romanticizing the character.....But to say that his soulless actions were done because of altruism seems highly suspect to me, to make the character into something you want him to be. He did those things because he was in love, not because it was "right". I don't think a soulless Spike cares one bit about what's right or wrong.
I agree wholeheartedly, but I don't think anyone here is arguing that Spike was noble, altruistic, or compelled to do good for the sake of it before he had his soul. His motivation was Buffy, absolutely. And along the way, he did a lot of good things and exhibited a lot of good traits. As I've said, he was a vampire who made progress like no other, and then regressed.
What still perplexes me about the entire counter argument to Spike's progress is the repeatedly articulated notion that the chip somehow "forced" Spike to behave as he did. Again, the chip forced Spike not to
kill others with his own two hands, (fangs, whatever).
It didn't stop him from eating them, getting others to kill them, or doing everything he could to make their lives a living hell.
What did stop Spike from doing those things, then? Not the chip--and certainly his own free will dictated his actions--certainly it was inspired by love for Buffy. Obsession at first, and then something more.
As we were discussing earlier in the thread, it's difficult to know where Buffy's "persuasion" leaves off and Spike's acts are more genuinely reflective of a shift in values. I attempted to point out some tell-tale behavior indicating such progression toward an understanding of different values yesterday, but I'm afraid they got lost in all of the posts.
-First and foremost, look at the period of time in which Buffy was dead. Explain to me how exactly Spike was acting purely out of the promise of getting "into her pants" in the following scenarios:
There are, what, 12 cemeteries in Sunnydale--why go to the one which confronts him with the task of saving the scoobies lest he stay on their good side, (assuming he even cares about doing so now that Buffy is gone). Why not get his rocks off by going to another and fighting demons there?
Continuing to protect Dawn.
That summer as well, Spike insists that Willow get the 'bot to stop flirting with him. He can't bear it. As we've said, yes, it's chalked up to predictable Spike love. But it's something more--it's humanistic love; it's more representative of a human being loving another human being than a vampire loving whomever.
Other characteristics that indicate a shift in something more than just behavior; more like empathy than ever before. Consider these instances in which BUFFY IS NOT WITHIN EARSHOT:
-Reassuring Tara that his hand is fine when it is clearly not, in an attempt to assuage her guilt for opening the curtains.
-Reassuring Dawn that she's not evil--that it's not her fault that he nearly died and that Tara's brain was sucked--genuinely trying to make her feel better about being the key.
-Everything I already mentioned about that summer when Buffy was gone.
Another instance which shows progress--whether or not we believe he should be forgiven because he goes to get a soul in the aftermath of Seeing Red-- the fact is that he does it because he believes that getting a soul will ensure that he won't ever do it again, (he has a very black and white understanding of what a soul can do).
-"Why'd you do it?"
-"To be hers...to be the kind of man who would NEVER...to be a kind of man."
So yes, it is to win back Buffy's affections. But it's also to ensure the he would never hurt the woman he loved, again. Progress--a shift in values.
Here's something else that Spike did while soulless:
he didn't kill Buffy. I know, I know, he'd never do that if he "wanted to get in her pants." But what about the fact that he's a soulless vampire, experiencing unrequited love from the woman with whom he is obsessed? Psychopathic, to say the least--a demon. When she finally rejects him, after using him for sex, we all know he can kill her. Or anyway, he can try.
In the beginning of Season 5, when the obsession is there but Spike hasn't quite put his finger on it, his entire raison d'être is "get my chip out so I can kill Buffy." The real sentiment there is,
"I can't have her. She's better than me. I want to kill her." In season 6, Spike CAN kill her. He can take his broken heart and do something truly evil with it, if he wants to.
In any other case, this seems like small potatoes. Oh, he doesn't kill her? What a mensch. But we are talking about a soulless vampire and the progress he makes toward shifting his intentions, and this parallel from season 5 to season 6 is worth noting. Again, please understand that his doesn't make him good. But certainly this shift should not be overlooked.