Good point. It always seemed to me like Joss was holding back with Tillow. I mean, it was a while until they actually admitted to dating, correct? And a while until their first on-screen kiss. And I remember Willow being very nervous about telling Buffy she was now a lesbian.
This doesn't mean Joss was holding back, this was actually Joss and co playing it quite accurately.
Willow had only ever been 'straight' up to meeting Tara, she'd never shown any interest in lady bits, sexually, so she was trying to understand what was going on.
In the real world alot people don't tell their closest friends and family straight away. I know guys that have been 'out' on the gay scene for years BUT their parents are none the wiser. One of my closest friends only told his other friends a couple of weeks ago and we've been going to Gay Clubs for years and he's had more 'action' than anyone I know.
As for the first screen kiss, well again, that wasn't to hide the relationship that was Joss trying to show that its not a big deal, that it is normal. Thats why he waited until The Body because there were other things taking precedence.
I appreciate his reasoning, I don't necessarily agree with it OR the length of time.
As for being nervous, how is that anything to do with Joss holding back.
Willow, as alot of people dealing with this, was nervous because she was worrie how her best friend would react. What if Buffy was against it, what if she didn't like it, what if Buffy couldn't accept her?
No, there is nothing wrong with that as it is true to life.