- Apr 11, 2018
I don't think it's particularly "murky". I think psychoanalysis would frame it as "in the other more than you're in yourself". I think it's just that we've become accustomed to a different "type" of love - one that sees strict boundaries between the self and the other. IMO, Whedon was trying to expand the notion of what love is - that's what I mean by "excess" - it's in excess of existing definitions. It shouldn't work - it's to his credit that it does. It's this excess that rescues it from the good girl/bad boy trope. In theory, Spuffy is incredibly clever.I don't necessarily think that's excessive though. I think excessive is when you want to die without that person or when you have nothing outside of that person. I think that's when it gets a little murky.
lolI hate this question but I don’t think it’s a case of loving one or other more. As a Spuffy even though it is hard to admit, on face value, from the show, I would say Angel. However, I would qualify this by saying she was a different person when she first fell in love with Angel, younger not as world weary, first idealised love and all that and she continued to love Angel. Whereas with Spike she grew with him, been through so much together (good and bad) and as far as my reading of the show was only starting to fall in love with Spike towards the very backend of Season 7 and I think she was still trying to make sense of it all, these two guys who mean so much to her. I think her feelings for Angel were more instantaneous whereas with Spike it was more of a journey. I don’t think it undermines either love tbh
I cant say that about Angel. If that so then why did he start going out with Cordy . It likes he two timing her & with one of her friends to make it worse .I am going with Angel loving Buffy more than Spike. Angel broke up with Buffy even though he needed her, so she could have a more normal relationship with someone other than him. In I Will Remember You Angel gave up his human life and went back to being a vampire to keep her from dying. Angel proved over and over again that he loved Buffy. He regarded her as the only one he had ever loved and expressed it many times. From Earshot: "In 243 years I have loved exactly one person."